We're both still in high school. He's not just someone who calls himself a Catholic; he's devoutly Catholic. I'm less than perfect, while he doesn't swear, is extremely generous, etc. He's even considering a nonsectarian college. Other than that, we have a lot in common, and we can make a conversation out of anything. I've considered asking him out to a dance or something like that, but I just don't know. Any ideas?
2007-11-19 17:24:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anita 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
That's nice.
I don't have any ideas.
If it happens it happens
If it doesn't, it doesn't.
By your words it appears you have a great appreciation for this person. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Ah, idealistic youth!
(Everyone is Catholic at some point or other.)
2007-11-19 17:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say ask him out and try to have fun at the dance. But just to avoid arguments and disagreements, I'd say stay away from the topic of religion. There are lots of other things you can talk about.
However, I must admit that I'm atheist who tried a high school relationship with a devout Christian, although she was Baptist instead of a catholic. I really liked her. She was beautiful, intelligent, kind and funny. And she really liked me too. But our ideological differences led to a lot of arguments and ultimately to the end of the relationship. She especially didn't like how I pressured her for sex. But what can I say? I was a horny teenager.
So I guess my point is this. If your beliefs are a world apart from his, then it could work, but it probably won't. If you're relationship gets far enough along, your ideological differences will likely become an issue.
2007-11-20 01:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, ask him out, go out on a date let him get to know you.
then pose your question about Atheist, this will open up a conversation on religions, if he asks you are you an Atheist or something on that note tell him the truth, then ask after knowing that will you still go out with me?
even if he is a devout Catholic, he may still be open to other religions.
Good luck.
Goddess Bless.
Blessed Be.
2007-11-20 01:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, I respect your believes and my answer comes from logic. Think about the future, what if you really like the guy and decide to get married? You may not believe in marriage but he does? Also if and when you do get married what about when he wants to show your kids about God? I know this is too ahead of the game but why ignite something that will never work out. It may for a few years but eventually it will fall apart. I say find someone you agree with or be honest with the guy and lay down the rules. I don't believe in God but you as a person I like can this work out with out you ever trying to convert me or pressure me into anything?
2007-11-20 04:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by DOC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you are an atheist?
If he does not, begin by introducing the subject in conversation. Ask him what he thinks of atheists, and watch his response.
If he already knows you are an atheist, or if he responds favorably to your conversation about atheists, then go ahead and ask him out... just take things very slowly, and keep the lines of communication open.
That's my advice. Have fun, but don't get too attached until (and if) all the kinks are worked out.
2007-11-20 01:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Snark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Atheism is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud. Represent atheists. If you're scared of him being ashamed, and he turns out to be ashamed, then what kind of person is he really? You obviously are not judging his beliefs, why should he judge yours? And I know the answer to that is obvious: Because he's probably a religious nut who thinks that he has everything in life figured out because he has a book filled with fairy tales. So if he does judge you, tell him to stick it.
2007-11-20 02:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by johnadams838383 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His opinion of you is that you are a sinner and you are going to burn in Hell for eternity.
Does that sound like the basis for a good relationship?
If he stays a devout Catholic your relationship is doomed. No contraception for a start and all those children will have to be brought up as Catholics.
You will eventually feel isolated.
2007-11-20 01:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by brainstorm 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is a devout Catholic he will not consider a serous relationship with an Atheist.
2007-11-20 01:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've known couples who have had very different religious views who were in love and got along very well. I know marriage is a long way off for both of you, but his wife to be would have to convert to Catholicism before they wed.
2007-11-20 01:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you're thinking of converting, I'd leave him alone. :) I'm a Catholic and would never consider dating someone who wasn't one or who wasn't at least willing to convert.
If he's a serious Catholic, he'll be looking for a potential wife not just a date, and an atheist would not be a good wife and mother for a Catholic man. He wants someone to share his life and soul with, not just superficial things on earth.
Seriously, ask yourself, are you willing to consider converting? If not, please do him the favor of leaving him alone romantically. :)
2007-11-20 01:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋