So, I've been going out with this girl for about two weeks. We've gone on about seven dates, and I'm really happy. But she and her ex still kiss, and I'm not too thrilled about it. Is this too early to be getting jealous? If so, how long should I wait to become concerned? And if not, how do I let her know that it bothers me?
2007-11-19 17:21:19 · 18 answers · asked by greenbayfan1114 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, that was fast. Thanks for your responses everyone! I suppose I should have clarified some things. This is an ex from a long time ago. I think he is dating someone else, but I'm not 100 percent sure. But a lot of her friends are guys, and that I really don't mind, (seeing as a lot of my friends are girls.) But I would REALLY prefer, if there was kissing to be had, that it would be between her and me.
2007-11-19 17:45:18 · update #1
She's the first girl I've ever asked out, and I would prefer not to screw it up this early in the relationship.
2007-11-19 17:46:23 · update #2
I don't think it's jealousy you're feeling. I think it's anger. Angry that you feel like you're wasting your time. Even if you'd only been on one date, for her to be kissing on another man while you're there is rude and insensitive. It would totally piss me off and I'd say so. I think she is either insensitive or really doesn't have much interest in the relationship the two of you have. It's just bad form.
2007-11-19 17:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Watching in Westminster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not too early to get jealous. it seems like her end her ex still have a thing going on and she's still not ready to move on. ask her how she sees her ex, friends or more? then when she answers and asks why you can tell her how you feel. if she doesnt listen or cooperate then she might not be the girl for you.
2007-11-20 01:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by sweeter than apple pie♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she has a need to kiss the ex bf. Then tell her that you don't approve of this behavior and ask her if she wants to continue to date you. Let her know that to you and most people this is not acceptable behavior.
EDIT: Even after your edit I still stand by this advice.
2007-11-20 01:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh she is playing around...confront her and ask her waht the big deal is, it is natural to be jealous because you like her now and I don't think you are mistaken about your feelings...Don't delay talk to her now and tell her that it bothers you after all you want her and that you are interested in her, maybe she thought you were just too easy on her that she can do anything she likes....so move and let her know what is running in your mind and in your heart.......good luck!
2007-11-20 01:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not good at all. i would be worried about it.
ask her about it and talk to her honestly, pretty much using what you said..
"we've been dating for about two weeks now and it appears to me you're still into your ex.... i just want to know if i have a shot with you or what" blah blah you get it.
however, if trust is an issue with you.. make sure you trust her before you get too serious or anything. ya don't want to get hurt in the long run.
2007-11-20 01:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by elrissaaa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if she still has feelings for her ex. If she says no, then ask her why all of the kissing. sounds to me that she is not over him yet. You did not say how long they have been split. She may still be harboring feelings for him, and you are the rebound guy.
2007-11-20 01:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER!! If she and him aren't dating anymore then she's needs to stop it, especially if the two of them are seeing other people. And maybe ask her if its really "over" between them then why do they still kiss one another.
2007-11-20 01:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by plg19632000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not want to be with someone who is still attached to their ex. If it bothers you say something to her. All you need to do is be upfront with her and honest about your feelings. If she does not like the idea find someone else who cares more.
2007-11-20 01:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by jchrist81285 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned, doesn't sound like her "ex" is really an "ex". I would just straight out ask her if she is still dating him.
2007-11-20 01:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not to early. Ask her directly what her feelings are for her ex and for you. and go from there. Better to find out early.
2007-11-20 01:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Ryan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋