What should I do about the fact that I'm just plain tired of living?

Question

I don't feel wanted, needed, or useful. Nearly everything I do, I do alone. I've got nobody to share things with whether they be good or bad, and nobody cares to talk or pay attention to me even when I make the first move. Life is just a constant, uphill battle and I'm so tired and weary. So, tell me. Why should I go on? Why should I continue to subject myself to this hell...?

Oh, and please don't tell me to seek God or to immerse myself in a hobby. I already have those things. These things, as many of you should know, are not substitutes for the warmth, the touch, or the understanding of another human being...

"djcapron": I never said God doesn't help. I merely said that He is no substitute for another human being. There is a difference, ya know...

Answer 1

Okay, you have two different questions here. The first was "What should I do about the fact that I'm just plain tired of living?"

To which the answer is, quite frankly, to pack up your bags and move to a foreign country and restart your life.

But your REAL question comes from this "These things, as many of you should know, are not substitutes for the warmth, the touch, or the understanding of another human being..."
In other words, you're just depressed because you don't have a lover.

Then the answer is to go out and find one. Go to a club, pub or party, go to a reading room or a cafe, and find the hottest thing in there, and send over a drink. That's where you start.

Answer 2

I agree with you that nothing can replace a friend. I've dealt with this for a long time and trust me - even being married or having children doesn't necessarily mean you won't ever be lonely or feel misunderstood at times. I basically just seek those who need me. I volunteer which has really helped build friendships and gives me a way to serve others. Also, try mentoring a kid through big brothers or sisters. You may think that you have nothing to offer, but what you need most may be the very thing you should give most which is friendship. I hope you stick around bc/ life has a whole lot worth living for.

Answer 3

i understand exactly how you feelmate.And sometimes you are just so sick of every thing that you are unable to do anything.I myself have just got out of hospital suffering from too much stress and anxiety and depression.But while i was in there i wa able to start reading ---a past time that i ,love and have not been able to do for nearly a year.I picked out a book that was confronting to me one because i knew i would relate to it and secondly i knew i would learn from it.There were so many lines in the book that i could have underlined and said thats how i feel or have felt.I was only in hospital for a few days im not sure if the hospial helped me more or the book.As i am now home i have not let myself slip back into certain behavoiurs and thoughts but i have maintained to the best of my ability a possitive attitude.
One of the main things that was said in the book was it is all about your PERCEPTION OF LIFE.And i really took that sentance on.you never know what is going to happen tommorow or the next day, i find it best to keep my mind in today and just get through today if you really want some one to chat to feel free to contact me via nickname good luck that really sucks when you are feeling down so for today good to see that you are on the net.

Answer 4

I feel this way quite often. I used to have friends, places to go and things to do and I was happy but then something terrible happened, I got an illness. A life threatening illness and there is no cure for it. I can't even find a doctor to treat me now because it is so bad that the doctors don't know what to do. They tell me it's the worst case they have ever seen. So if you think you feel bad think of all of us out here who don't have a hope of getting better. I have lost all my friends because I am so ill I can't go visit them. I tried to stay in touch by phone but it seemed they always had "company" or "something they had to go and do" Talk about depression, walk a mile in my shoes. I have no one to talk to, no one to share things with, no one to care about me and no energy to do anything about it. So tell me why should I go on? I'll tell you--because I refuse to give up. Because I am stubborn. This illness is NOT going to get the best of me. Why should you go on? Why shouldn't you?. Tomorrow is a new day. New things may happen, maybe one day you can help someone else who feels the way you do right now but you can't help them if you are not here. I would love for someone to hold me and hug me until the pain goes away and tell me everything will be ok but there is no one to do that YET. I hope in time things change for the better but I know they won't if I give up and they won't if you give up. Aren't you worth hanging in there? I am!!!!

Answer 5

First of all, Im so sorry you feel like there is nothing better than to not live. I will not tell you to seek God or a hobby. I understand that you want someone there with you. I think a good idea for you is to think about what you like to do. Do you like dancing or exercising? If you do look online for groups in your area most are just people that get together and are free. you can look online places like myspace, craigslist, meetup.com or meetups.com , or do a search online for meetups or groups. People that work with you try to interact with them. Try to talk to people and interact with them to get close friends. Another idea... do you like pets? Get a dog. They are so loving and fun to be around, great companions. If not a dog person get a kitten/cat.
Again, just some ideas but I hope youre ok. It worries me when I hear people say things like you are. I hope you find a way out. Things get worse before they get better. Also you can try calling 1800SUICIDE (18007842433)
I hope you feel better and Im sorry that you feel there is nothing better than not to live. There are other options... please pursue them :)

Answer 6

heres what i do step out side of your self
there are many people in the world just like you
volunteer some where doing somethin .
you will meet people and you will be needed and useful.
it sounds like you want to be in love and most of us do, don't have an answer for finding true love
or even a good relationship
but to stop feeling sad about our sad lives it helps to reach out to someone worst off then ourselves
it takes the focus off us and make you feel grateful for the good in our lives no matter how small
couldn't hurt, you got nothing to lose can only go upward
also it is true that god will help
he hasn't given me everything i wanted
but has met my needs and then some

Answer 7

Go on a cruise!

Or, along the lines of "hobby", join a group of people that share what you like to do. Just google it (or yahoo it) and you will find people.

Or do crazy things, like go skydiving.

Ever go on a yacht by yourself on the open sea? Try that. Well, learn how to sail first...

Or, how's this. Do something totally different each weekend. Go to a museum. Go to a library.

Write a book.


Too long? Write a poem and go to a Poetry Slam.

Go on a wine tasting tour.

There are a ga-zillion things you can do! And doing things in groups, you are sure to strike up a conversation.

Go ahead, make your own day!

Answer 8

If seeking out company at church isn't an option for you, consider volunteering in your community. There are I'm sure, hundreds of elderly, shut-in, or hospitalized people in your area that would be eternally grateful for your company, seek these people out. If you like kids, you can start out by being a Big Brother to a child, you may think you have nothing to teach them, but they are just like you, wanting, aching for someone to care about them and listen to them. There are people who will love and appreciate you, look some more.

Answer 9

Aren't you married, Larry? Why don't you talk to your wife about how you feel. Sometimes it may seem like people are not taking an interest in us, but it is really just because they are not sure exactly of the problem and they are not sure exactly what to do for you. Sitting down and talking to your wife and telling her exactly what you need from her may start the healing process for both of you.

Answer 10

i think a lot of it is the way YOU look at things. A negative attitude will not help you. You need to find something to break your depression. Find a doctor and get some help. Also if you truly went out and did things you liked just to do them. I know you would make some friends. Get some help.
If you did know God you would not say he doesn't help.