Was seeing this guy long distance, and all of a sudden he says he's not sure if he can handle this long distance, plus he wants to just take time out for himself. He sounded so stressed out the last time we spoke. He says that he doesnt want to hurt me and wants to be 100% sure about this before he sees me again. Also says he needs about 2-3 wks worth of time and space. Is that normal? Im worried about him but i dont want to pester him by calling/texting/email. What should i do?
2007-11-19 16:20:56 · 7 answers · asked by living p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do want to show him that i care about him(which i do)but will i suffocate hi by contacting him??Will he start missing me if i dont?
2007-11-19 16:31:55 · update #1
Ok, the fact that he put a time limit on how much space he needs lead me to believe he is not being fully honest. Your in a long distance relationship, how much more space do you need. When someone sincerely needs space, they can't put a time limit on it. I think he is full of crap and probably has something "extra" going on. Prepare yourself for a blow to the heart. Give him his "space" and in the meantime, take care of you and find positive things to do with your time.
2007-11-19 16:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by They Don't Like Me! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person puts a time limit on how much space they need, theres is most likely an underlying reason for that. Either he is just trying to be nice about maybe not wanting to see you again, or maybe there is someone else, or maybe he has some personal issues he has to deal with. you never know. if you care for this person, give them the space and try not to worry or think about him and if you hear from him again, then great if not move on.
2007-11-20 00:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give him some time and in the meantime perhaps date someone closer to you. Long distance relationships have a high rate of failure and he perhaps realizes that and the fact that one of you will have to move to give the relationship a chance. Depending upon what he does for a living he may even be considering moving to be closer to you but you have to give him time to work that out for himself. To play Devils Advocate here, if it is someone you met online it may even be that he is married and having problems there. Just give him time and space and if you gt a chance to go out with someone else do that in case he does decide that won't work for the two of you. Good Luck either way!!
2007-11-20 00:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hells no! My advice is that you tell him that while he needs space you two will NO LONGER be seeing each other exclusively and that YOU are free to date other people in the meantime. Furthermore, if after his 2-3 weeks he wants to discuss then you two can talk about where your relationship stands and whether or not YOU want to pursue it further. It's a classic episode of he wants you on a string while he examines his other options.
2007-11-20 00:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by undercover rock star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance is tough, im doing it right now.....i would call him once in a while to show him you want it to work out (if you do) but your right dont pester him, and if you dont want to wait, tell him to hit the road because you want someone that wants you all the time not in two or three weeks. if you dont completly trust him long distance isnt the way to go, not worth doing that to yourself!! luck!
2007-11-20 00:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him his space. You'll know in a couple weeks whether it's meant to be or not. Just don't worry and try not to overanalyze things. I'm sure things will work out the way they're meant to.
Good luck! =)
2007-11-20 00:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Dizzler9347598 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a choice but to give him space and time. I think he has met someone, and wants to see what happens before totally breaking up with you.
If you don't want to push him away, don't pester. Wait and see.
2007-11-20 00:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by sugar321pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋