ok so i met this great guy through my ex, we ended up hitting it off, he told me he was leaving town soon within a week to go out of town for his job...so we saw eachother a few times befor he left and we had the greatest sex, even after that things did not end up wierd we where able to stay friends, and he kept in touch with me all the months he was out of town, now he is coming back in december for good back to cali...and we can't wait to see each other, but during the time he was gone i dated and made up my mind not to have sex unless its with someone serious, and i have been doing great at keeping my legs closed...now that he's coming back how can i tell him i want to take things slow and not jump to having sex though we both can't wait to see eachother when we have already gone out of order and already done the deed...its not that i dont want to have sex with him, i don't want to be so available in that sense and sell myself short, thank god he ended up being a nice guy...
2007-11-19 16:14:54 · 15 answers · asked by Insidious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you so much guys/girls...you guys have helped with all your great answers! :)
2007-11-19 16:29:20 · update #1
You say "focus" while pointing to your eyes, and say " NO SEX." Then make like a scissors and say, "this is what will happen to you if you bring it up again."
2007-11-19 16:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im only 17 and to be honest with u ive been in ur situation the most u can do is tell him that u have thought about the relationship and u noticed that we went a little bit to fast and that u wanna take it slow this time tell him that u dont want to loose a best friend or have a chance of getting hurt
2007-11-20 00:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by babyboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you tell him exactly what you just said while you were away i made a commitment to myself to not have sex with anyone until i knew it was serious and that you didnt want to sell your self short that you have enough respect for yourself not to have sex and if he cant understand that or atleast try and respect that then he is not the guy for you seriously that is all there is to it . good luck and good job onmaking that decision stick with it
2007-11-20 00:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by bluvsm7122003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him be firm. If he does not respect your response then obviously he is not the one for you. Continue to wait on your mate and pray about this guy.
I am writing from experience: I've turned down many guys in my time (because they weren not who God had for me)... now I am with my mate. He is also a virgin waiting on me until our wedding night. It is feasible. You can do it!
Just tell him and mean what you say....you'll be happy you did... I know I am...and I am a 20 year old virgin.
2007-11-20 00:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him before he gets back in town, "No SEX". If he is a real "nice" guy he'll respect you and your decision, if not skip him, chances are you could do better.
2007-11-20 00:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by showc48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain that to him. Tell him that you've thought about it, and you decided to take things slow with anyone you get involved with, and aren't into the casual sex thing anymore. He should understand. And you'll find out if he's only in it for the sex.
2007-11-20 00:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've mentioned that he's a nice guy. If you tell him that you don't want a sexual relationship right now, he should understand and respect your decision.
2007-11-20 00:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by kyliekissesx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you dont want to have sex. If he doesn't understand that he's obviously not good enough for you.
2007-11-20 00:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by cherry blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you told us you're not out looking for sex. Hopefully he will respect that.
2007-11-20 00:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by kewpie003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with him. If he is a nice guy he will understand.
2007-11-20 00:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋