i love my boyfriend loads but sometimes he scares me 1 min hes really sweet and kind and he says he wants?

Question

2 have more kids with me then he changes and starts questioning me sayin i cant talk 2 boys no more other wise hes gunna kill them hes never hurt me before but he says that hes like this because his ex cheated on him but my ex did aswell and i dont say that im gonna kill him he talks 2 girls and they all call him sexy but if a boy calls me sexy he goes mad and says im gonna cheat i dunno what 2 do should i stay with him???

im only 19

Answer 1

he sounds like an emmotional reck. dump him

Answer 2

We've all seen this happen over and over: the "pretty" girl has no boyfriend while the "average" girl is never without one. Why? I think it could be a number of reasons. 1) Maybe you're intimidating to the types of men you're currently trying to attract. Try exposing yourself to different types of guys, those you normally wouldn't seek out. See if they will appreciate a successful, independent woman more than your current prospects do. 2) Maybe guys don't think you're approachable. Much of what others perceive us to be is the image we are (unknowingly) projecting. Perhaps you are subconsciously projecting your fear that you will always be alone and guys are picking up on those negative vibes. 3) Maybe it's just bad timing. It sounds like you have done very well as a single woman, without a boyfriend, and having one would keep you from accomplishing everything you need to at this point in your life. Having a companion is wonderful, but so is being single. 4) Maybe you should just concentrate on being YOU right now. I've always heard it said that if you want to attract someone with certain attributes, then focus on developing those qualities in yourself. Like attracts like, so be the best person you can be and chances are, you will eventually find the person who is best suited to you. 5) Maybe you're just trying too hard. Be patient and trust that fate (God) has a plan for you, so just relax and let it unfold. Better to be happy alone than miserable with someone who isn't right for you! One more thought: Chemistry is definitely significant, and is what initially attracts us to someone. But what's most important in a long-term relationship is mutual respect, friendship and similar values and interests. Sometimes the chemistry comes later. So don't automatically dismiss a potential relationship just because you don't, at first, see fireworks!

Answer 3

hi there hun,
sounds to me like there's one set of rules for him and one set of rules for you he sounds like a control freak to me . i mean fair enough thing went wrong in his last relationship but that dos'nt give him the right to be nasty to you abuse comes in many form not just physical as far as i am concerned you are better of without this guy you should feel fear from anybody and if you have a kid with him then thats no reason to stay i wouldn't have more with him either unless of course there's a chance of maybe going to counseling or something along those line i was 19 with my first kid and my partner at the time was nasty so i got out if not for my sake but the kid's they don't ask to be born. and maybe you could go to your parents also or a close family or friend and see what they say also hunny you deserve respect we all do.

hope things work out for you good luck and be safe
Sonya

Answer 4

it sounds like he is imature and in need of some serious counseling, if you have a child or children they realy shouldnt be exposed to this and neither should you maybe the best idea would be to see a counseler yourself first and tell them the situation your in,but for the moment i think your first priority is the safety you and your kids,have you a mum or dad or relative you can stay with? until your boyfreind can get himself sorted out,for you just cant live with the threat that hes going to explode,its like living with a time bomb.take care and i hope you can get things sorted.

Answer 5

if i was you i would get away from him as soon as possible, like now. (i know it's not that easy to just walk away) you probably love him, but he's getting a little controling and unpredictable by the sounds of it, might turn his anger/violence onto you, it's better that you get away now rather then get even more attatched to him and later down the line think 'what the hell am i doing with him? i should have left long ago.' and by that time you will never leave him.

Answer 6

If you have to ask, seriously, you already know the answer.

Is this the best you can imagine for yourself? What's the rush ?What would your life with someone like that be like in 10 years? 20 yrs?

Get as far away from this guy as you can .

Good Luck !

;-)

Answer 7

He's a control freak. He definitely needs professional help for his own health and happiness as well as yours. If he refuses to do this then he can't admit to himself he has a problem. Leave him if he won't try and improve as there's not very much you can do to help or change him.

Answer 8

Notify the authorities and anyone else you know. Giev them his contact nnumber as well as your. Track him... well that's going too far. In necessary get a restrraining order. Go seek counseling.... Let him seek mental help... He sounds controlling and hypocritical.. Be very leery...

Answer 9

I think you a sensible girl and you want to dump him, just want other peoples opinions to give you the courage. Be careful if and when you dump him, he sounds like he could take rejection real bad.

Answer 10

He sounds controlling, wierd and still hasn't gotten over his ex cheating on him. I would dump him and find someone who is gonna treat you better.

Answer 11

you still love him so i think you get your boy's and your shelf out of there go to a safe house then when you can get to a secure phone call and tell him that he get's some mental health care or you will not return and you stick to it