She has a genetic disorder and is not at the normal level of a 2 y/o. She has little speach(not due to the passy) but due to her cleft palate. She will be having surgery on it soon to close it. She wants it all the time. She cannot understanding me telling her she can't have it. She doesn't understand things like that. She is in the 12-18 months range in some comprehension things. All of my friends with 2 y/o can have conversations with them, but my baby can't say more than 5 words.......Bye Bye, Nana, Momma, Dada, Night Night. She tries to say alot of things but b/c of her cleft palate it comes out really nasaly. I want her off of it but with surgery coming up she might need it. What should I do.
2007-11-19 15:46:38 · 15 answers · asked by tlsburford 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let her have the passy for awhile. This is not the time to rob her of her security passy. Give the kid a break. Let her have it.
2007-11-19 15:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want her to have it after having surgery.
That would be a good time to "lose" it.
My second daughter was into her 2nd year when she started talking and she didn't have any of them problems. She didn't have a pacifier, didn't want one. Kids just develope at different rates.
My first one talked in long sentences by the time she was 1 1/2. She had a pacifier and one day when she was about 3 she was talking about how big she is and I told her when she throws away her pacifier she will be a big girl so she threw it away and that was the end of it. She did ask for it once or twice but I told her is was gone.
Don't worry about it, when she gets the palate fixed her speech developement will probably go a lot faster.
Both my girls have perfect teeth, too.
2007-11-19 16:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had cleft lip and cleft palate.. I will pray for her surgery.. Let her have it until a little while after her surgery. I was like that i would say momma dadda nana bye bye moonie and stuff its hard to talk with the condition.. Well everything will work out.. Good luck with everything..
2007-11-19 15:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by paris_alyssa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would wait personally, it might actually be something soothing to her cleft palate, the sucking pressure you know? Especially with surgery coming up I wouldn't suggest doing it right away, it may be a great comfort to her during that time. But I hope everything goes perfectly with her surgery, and I hope you'll be hearing her talking up a storm once it's fixed :)
2007-11-19 15:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by Laura S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This was a big issue for me and my son. After having scoured the Internet for studies and other research by experts in the field of child development, I decided that he could have it until he got tired of it.
There is no longer a significant risk of mouth deformation or other dental problems associated with the use of modern pacifiers. I couldn't believe it at first (my wife and I argued about this several times because I wanted to take it away) but you simply can't argue with the research.
Ask your doctor to be certain, but it would seem logical to assume that using the passy shortly after her surgery will loosen the stitches, and slow the healing process by sucking blood, and coagulating plasma out of the incisions, where they need to remain, harden, and heal.
2007-11-19 16:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by AK Nixon McGuillicutty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I absolutley agree with the first 2 ppl to post an answer. Let her have it, untill she has recovered from her next surgery. She will need the comfort. I know you are trying to do what's best for her! If you are wanting to get rid of it because you think others will judge you, please ignore society. You are gonna have so many things on your plate, don't add this too.
Good luck!
That is what I initally think anyways! Ask her doctor, it may not be good for her to suck on things after the surgery, ...will it cause more dental damage?
2007-11-19 15:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by grumpy_chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of her disorders, I would let her continue to have it until sometime after her surgery. She is going to need some comfort and that maybe it for her. My husband and I are having this argument about getting rid of our almost 2 y/o son's paci. He thinks that it is okay for them to have it whenever they want it and I want to get rid of it. My two older children didn't have it past 2 years of age. Good luck with the surgery.
2007-11-20 00:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start to try, but if it's too traumatic for her, give it a rest for a couple weeks and try again. Breaking any kid of a pacifier can be very difficult, but when you start hitting around the 2 year mark, it's a good idea to start so you don't encounter dental problems. Good luck! (BTW, hang in there and keep working with her on the words, they will come...I KNOW how hard it is)
2007-11-19 15:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♀Redheaded Sunshine☼ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let her have it... she is about to go through a possibly traumatic experience, and she will need all the comfort she can get. Once she had recovered from her surgery, start working on weaning her off it.
2007-11-19 15:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this isnt the time....after her surgery and she's not having anymore pain then u can break her off it......this surgery could possibly traumatize her and taking away her surcuity paci will just make things worse for both of u
2007-11-19 16:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by sammi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋