my brother.. what should i do?

Question

my brother, well step brother, he bosses me around and tells me to do EVERYTHING..

he wants me to take out trash, do laundary and other chores around the house..

and i am only 17, and he is 25

as soon i come home from school, he will give me things to do..
like today at 10:30 PM, i was doing coll stuff, he told me to get laundary..! and he expects me to fold it and put it in his room nicely..

he sometimes says, that he wishes i was a boy.. ( so he cud beat hom up)

i dont knw how to deal with it.. i am scared that he will hit me if i talk baq..
and my step dad and my mom arent supportive either..

any suggestions on what i shud do?

thanks

Answer 1

He sounds like a bully and a jerk. Stand up to him, or just ignore him. Don't encourge him or intice him to hit you - remember he's 25 if you call the cops he'll spend a few hours in jail - you're 17 you'll end up in the foster care system. Social Services will remove you for your protection and then start asking questions about what happend etc to the other involved. As a minor it is your parents job (your mother in this case) to proctect you. "Failure to proctect" is a common reason for children to be removed from their homes and placed in foster care. I only mention this because many people advise calling the cops - which should be done in truely serious situations and I thought you should know how the situation would more than likely be handled should law enforcement step in. Try pulling your mom aside and telling her that you are honestly scared of him - maybe even show her your question and the anwsers others posted. Maybe when she see we are all taking you seriously, she might too. Be strong!

Answer 2

Well, doing chores isn't a bad thing. But the fact that he wishes he could beat up on you is a little troublesome. Have you talked to your mother alone, without your step father there? Your step father would defend his son, and your mother would defend him because your step father's defending him.
Whatever you do, no matter how angry you get, don't hit him. If you want to talk back to him, or hit him or think you're going to lose your temper, go to the bathroom.
If he's 25, it's kind of pathetic that he has to boss you around and is still living at home. He's probably just a bored man, not knowing what to do. You probably amuse him. Which sounds creepy and morbid, but it could possibly be.
Anyways, talk to your mother, ALONE. Make it a little dramatic. So, if she doesn't start to see things, add some crying or something to make her see just how much it's bugging you.

Answer 3

You need to be talking to your mom about what a bully he is and tell her if he hits you, you will report it. Maybe that will get her attention.

You are not his maid and should tell him no when he tells you to get his laundry. If he hits you and leaves a big bruise show it to a school counselor and tell them you want it reported. They will send out social services and have a big talk with your family. May even tell them big step brother can't stay at the house anymore. If that doesn't work then press charges with the police. What ever you do, if you go to the police make sure they file your report and take pictures of any marks. Good luck hopefully a talk with mom will help cool SB

Answer 4

Yeah, call the cops immediately if he touches you. Then I would get those idiot parents of yours a counselor because if you've expressed your feelings of being scared of another human being and your own parents don't protect you from abuse, they are just as bad as the abuser. Don't stand for his crap. He touches you, he will go to jail as a child abuser, and you wanna know what they do to child abusers in jail? Let's just say that THOSE types of people don't have a positive experience... I wouldn't even tell the prick, I would talk back to him and the second I felt threatened it would go something like this, "ring ring, yea police, my 25 year old brother hit me and I'm only 17." they'd probably be there before you hung up the phone. This is a country where we NEVER have to be scared for our safety, EVER. Anyone who makes you feel that way is violating your rights and deserves what they get

Answer 5

If you have a school councillor or a teacher at school you trust what about talking to them about it? I agree with the top answer if he threatens of hurts you call the Police.

Answer 6

Talk to a counselor at your school. It may sound silly but it's a good way to get your parents' attention and get them to listen. A lot of older siblings boss around their younger siblings and pick on them but you shouldn't be afraid of him hurting you.

Answer 7

i would tell my father about the situation,and what my step brother has been doing and saying to me and how he has threatened me and how my mother isn't trying to help or defend me. and go and live with him,i would also take self defense classes just in case he decided to put his hands on me,he would be sorry.

Answer 8

well, if u tried to stop him and if he still a jerk then don't listen to him. he don't have no right to hit u... but if he did, am sure ur mom or dad won't just let dat pass sooo it will be good if u stand up for urself n' ignore him.

Answer 9

Tell him that he is not your father or mother and you will not listen to him. If he threatens you, call the cops and have him arrested. If your step dad and mom try and threaten you to, call the cops on them.

Answer 10

Tell him your not his mommy nor are you his built in maid. If he hits you it is assault on a minor and he can go to jail remind him of that at the same time you tell him the rest of it.