I was beaten hard by my father when I was as early as 2 years old until I was 12. The beating includes lifting and throwing me hard anywhere,hitting my head with a hammer,belt,etc. until I get bruise.even remembered going to school with a concealer to hide the bruises in my face.
In my teenage years I was sexually harassed by my Uncle,that includes saying dirty things/words that I can't take.He watches me take a shower through a window,teaching me do dirty things.
I know you will say why did I let him do that to me..I don't have the courage.I'm scared that if I talk about it, it will just make things worse.
I didn't get any help.I thought I am okay and thought I already forgave them for whatever t caused me.I am 26 y/o now, with a 5 y/o daughter. Sometimes I feel bad and so depressed. I always think about those incidents and feel sorry for my self.
Like now I feel like crying coz my husband is abandoning me,I don't know what to do,I don't want to say or do anything. I am lost.
2007-11-19 15:42:52 · 9 answers · asked by momi 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
my parent got separated when I was 12. I wish my daughter won't experience what I had before. Sometimes my husband hits me too..I am from a different country,just came here to US 10months ago, I have no family and friends here. I gave all of my time to my family. Honestly I am more worried for my daughter more than myself right now.To all the people that spared their time to read and answered this, Thank you so much, with all my heart.
2007-11-19 16:25:50 · update #1
Just the fact you were able to discuss your life of abuse, you can now look for help. There is help for you and your daughter. Not knowing where you live there are churches and community organizations that are there just for women in your situation. there is also government help through social services. All are available, you should search the telephone directory and get in touch with the government or private organizations and you should call as many as you can and get help in place as quickly as possible. You can get financial aid for rent nd utilities and you can get the professional help that you need to put your life back together. Please do this in the morning. You are entitled to this help and you need psychologists help so you can get yourself starting to heal the wounds you had inflicted on you. You have to do this for you and your daughter. You need to get strong so you can take care of her the way you should. This help is there to help you heal your wounds and get well . The abuse you endured is a constant weight on your shoulders and there is this network of help that you deserve to get strong for you and your child. I can not even begin to understand the terror you live with, but you love your daughter and will do what you must do for her., and Yourself I hope this helps . If you need you can email me and i will do what I can.
2007-11-19 16:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have definitely had some hard times in your life. It wouldn't be any surprise that you struggle with depressive episodes/feelings. Honestly, the best medicine here is counseling. Someone that is clinically educated, and is the right fit for you. Sometimes the first counselor that you go to isn't the right one, but perseverance is key here. You may have forgiven, but with wounds like those, I have found that it may take much more time to forget. But, a good counselor is definitely a step in the right direction. Good luck to you...seek help so that both you and your daughter can be happy whether your husband leaves or not.
2007-11-19 16:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by lnh4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was seriously abused as a child, emotional, sexual and physically. You did not let your uncle do anything to you, you were a child. I too look back at my childhood and get so depressed. I have four children, I gave two up and I have two at home. Well they are not with me either, they are with their paternal grandparents. I am in the midst of a divorce and have severe depression. I don't know If I can help but I will be here for you if you need to talk.
2007-11-19 15:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you are feeling is a natural result from that kind of abuse. The good news is that you can heal. I hope you realize is that none of their actions are because of anything you did or didn't do.
Since you are apparently going through an additional hard time in your life, my suggestion would be that you consider finding a Psychotherapist that deals with abuse.
You will begin to heal, and you and your daughter will be able to share experiences that will forever be dear to your hearts. Nothing, not even your past will be able to take that from you.
2007-11-19 16:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by buttercup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will help a lot if you get counseling!
Things like you've experienced are very difficult to handle in life and you cannot simple say to yourself 'I forgave them of everything'. It doesn't work that way, trust me I've tried! You need to express how you feel in one form or another. Get these old feelings and thoughts out of you. Don't let them fester or manifest anymore! Take back your life and be the happy person you know is in there.
2007-11-19 22:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, it was not your fault that someone did that to you. Those are evil people who do that to a child. You need to speak to a counselor and have them refer you to a psychiatrist. But you sound to me like you are carrying around guilt for what THEY did to you (you wrote: "teaching me do dirty things"). Forgive yourself for what you feel that you've done wrong and things will start to look up. And remember, your baby girl needs you. Hold yourself together for HER.
Best of luck to you.
2007-11-19 15:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dustelightful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please do not be depressed and do not feel sorry u did nothing wrong u should think that u r too strong coz u moved on with out any help ...iam 26 years old too ..and my childhood was very bad but we must not let that effect on our life ...god be with u
2007-11-19 23:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was done to you was terrible and NOT YOUR FAULT.
None of that was your fault. None of it.
I'm not a psychologist, so I'm sorry I can't help you with your depression or your marriage.
2007-11-19 15:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by Faijin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to forget the pain of the situations you suffered before and re mined your self not to allow this to over your personality and character give love to people you love & they love you
2007-11-19 15:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by ladylonaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋