After visiting my bf for the weekend, I went back to school for class on Monday and Wednesday. At the end of my last class I found out that the thanksgiving break starts on Wednesday and thus the school is closed. I informed my bf of this and he told me to come home before 9 so that we could hang out. Laundry is free at school and costs at home. I took my laundry home cuz I wouldnt have enough time to do it at school if I want to be there to see my bf by 9. As I was driving home, I was talking to him and he announced that he wants to go visit his cousin and then try to make plans with him tomorrow. Initially, I wasnt going to come home till Thursday so that I can get a lot of homework done at school, hang out with friends and do a bunch of chores. What am I supposed to say or do? I have been putting him first... should I redo my priorities and put him after family, chores and friends? I am so confused. I even asked him on the phone if he was excited to see me and he answered "NO". =(
2007-11-19 15:21:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time to revisit where you think you fit in his life. Right now, it doesn't look too good (sorry to say). College isn't economically an easy time for most. But it is more than just doing laundry - it's about being a couple. Sounds like you have put a lot of extra time into this relationship which could have easily been spent staying on campus -- going to parties, sleeping in, doing chores, studying, just hanging out with friends.
I think the best thing you can do is go back to your origonal plans and do what you need to do before coming home. You need to start putting your priorities first.
Think of it this way: If you continue putting him first, and you stay together, you will one day wake up and feel resentment for all the things you've sacrificed that he doesn't appreciate.
If you start to put yourself & family first, maybe you'll stay together -- and you won't have the same regrets as above. But more likely, if you start to put yourself & family first, your relationship won't last & what have you REALLY lost?
2007-11-19 15:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by David M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 21:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he putting you off like that? Sounds to me like he's got his priorities all mixed up. Give him an ultimatum and ask him to include you in friend and family things. Shoot you go out of your way to make him number one why can't he do the same to you. You might wanna just dump him and move on.
2007-11-19 15:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont put him first. he should be a high priority, but not the highest. when you meet the "one", his plans will work with yours, you wont have to change alot. give it some time, but if you think hes not the right guy, dont waste any more time!
2007-11-19 15:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump and move on. Any guy that is that insensitive is an idiot, and won't ever learn.
2007-11-19 15:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My uncle told me this. " You're always higher, and never think anybody else is better than you."
2007-11-19 15:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real jerk... id get rid of him.
2007-11-19 15:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not excited to see you then why go?
2007-11-19 15:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why bother.
2007-11-19 15:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by ☠ ☠ ☠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes a jerk.................not worth your time.
2007-11-19 15:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by girlslikeboys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋