I am a junior in college who lives with her brother and wife while my parents live in Texas. I hate living here and cant wait to move out of here! I plan on pursuing a career that demands a graduate school...and none of those schools are in the state that i live in. The idea of going to a new and strange place is really scarey to me unless my boyfriend comes with me.
But here's the deal. My parents are strict and old fashioned and oppose in us living together before we get married. I on the other hand, agree with my boyfriend that it's too early to get married (we're going on four years, but i'm still 20 yo!) and i cant imagine a long distance relationship or not having his support through all the schooling i will be putting my self through.
Is there anyway i can brake into my parent's beliefs and have them understand!? How can i get them to realize im not a little girl anymore and that i need to create my own life now?
2007-11-19 15:03:44 · 4 answers · asked by mrazle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry...I'm with your parents on this one. Setting up house keeping with your lover while in a graduate program can be detrimental to your continuing education. Plus if you are as adult as you think you are you wouldn't need his security. You're almost there. Do it their way just a little bit longer. Being on your own during this final stage will not only be a challenge, but will help you in growing up as well. Having been through the process myself, It is my belief that your bf (especially if you live together) will be a distraction.
Regardless...good luck to you and hang in there.
2007-11-19 15:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman per say - you are old enough to follow your own heart and I believe you already know what you feel is right and wrong as far as moving in with your boyfriend. Change is always scarey no matter what it is big or small. Do not be afraid - there is sooo much out there for you especially at your young age. If you attend graduate school in another state you know you will meet many other students and have support through them. Your boyfriend could come and visit on vacations while you concentrate on getting our degree without distractions. I'm not really sure what you're trying to break away from - you're of the age to do what you wish - follow your heart and morals. Hope this helps.
2007-11-19 15:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by privatecriminal2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said :
How can i get them to realize im not a little girl anymore and that i need to create my own life now?
You also said :
The idea of going to a new and strange place is really scarey to me unless my boyfriend comes with me.
See the contradiction?
As long as it is your b/f who is your security blanket and not a relative your ok with it.If your going to be an adult, you need to learn how to make it on your OWN without relatives or b/f's hon.They are human and they will fail you and they cannot protect you 24-7.Take karate,learn to shoot a hand gun and by one.
2007-11-19 15:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get an education ? Just run off with your dumb BF and live happily ever after under the brige or something ? No wonder your parents are so strict. You are not that bright ! Drop the freeloader, get yourself an education, listen to your parents. Or tell you dumb BF to go to college and make something of himself, first, then you can live with him. Or, just leave, you are 20, and your BF is more important to you than your family, right, so just go off with him and see if "he" can afford to send you to school ? My guess is you paid for the last Quizno's meal you both had, and he freeloaded. Good Luck, Mom and Dad know more than you think.
2007-11-19 15:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by FILE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋