It seems so easy to divorce these days. I do not think everyone takes into consideration their marriage vows said before God. Why do you think this is or is not? Thank you!
2007-11-19 14:18:06 · 17 answers · asked by Marie 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My parents were divorced when I was 13 and as bad as their marriage was it traumatized me. I've been married 25 years. It has not always been a walk in the park. As a matter of fact it was pretty rough in the beginning, but we stuck it out and it was worth every bit of struggle. I used to cry as a little girl, when people like Desi and Lucy, or Sonny and Cher got divorced. I guess I've always been like God that way. I hate divorce! I realze that in some instances there is just no other option than to separate ( as in the case of abuse)., but I think people do go into marriage these days with the thought already in the back of their minds,"well, if it doesn't work out..." If that way of thinking isn't changed it will lead to divorce. God bless!!
2007-11-19 17:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by BERT 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People rarely understand that marriage is about sacrifice when they enter it... and when it is not what they thought it would be they give up.. or look for "something better".
If they did look at their vows each day as being a covenant before God then the perspective would be more in light of a lifelong commitment and about God first - which would bring the divorce rate down. Sadly, many Christians stop looking at it as a covenant with God and the other person at some point also.
2007-11-19 14:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Although, I believe divorce was less expensive than as it is now. People now a day don't take marriage sacred and seriously. Men & women, now a days, see marriage like their material goods. One doesn't like their last years wardrope, throw it, and get a new one; don't like your car, exchange it and get the latest model; don't like your job, get another one, etc...etc. We live in a throw away society. People have taken God's rule about marriage out of the equation. There are many people committing adultery in this world.
People expect a perfect marriage from the start and that isn't always the case. As soon as expectations are shattered about marriage, one of the two wants out before even trying to make it work. It takes two to make a marriage work and it takes a lot of work every second of the marriage.
I believe many people need to attend MARRIAGE/FAMILY COUNSELING before getting married (at least 50 hrs).
I've been married 38 years and I can assure you it has not been easy and we are still working at it, it never stops.
GOD BLESS! AMEN! SHALOM!
2007-11-19 15:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Attitudes are much more relaxed nowadays. "No-fault" divorce laws are partly to blame but there are deeper things at work. Most people thing LOVE is the biggest thing in marriage. They're wrong. Commitment is the real key. Love is an emotion. We are people and our emotions change day to day and moment to moment. There will be many bad loveless days in marriage. I know for about a year in my own marriage of 25 years we spent most of our time flipping each other off. We had children, property, a vow, and commitment. We still have marriage. Statistics will show you correct that it's easy to divorce. One marriage in four will fail. Various reasons but obviously NO commitment. I've said it before in this forum but it's worth repeating. If you go into marriage with your eyes wide open you can keep them half shut afterwards.
2016-05-24 06:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As my mother was married twice, my grandmother 4 times and my great grandmother 3 times, while I have remained married to one husband, I'm going with "No".
They were all Christians by the way. Mom and Grandma had multiple lovers as well, where as, I have not. I'm a Witch. I was not married before your god.
What does all that have to say about your question?
Still none of this really tells you what we think and feel about marriage. It does not tell you about their experiences in their marriages. I doubt any of these ladies would have described divorce as "easy". Neither would I.
2007-11-19 15:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
after the 60's statistics show a yearly increase to divorce rates. To many people give up to easy..marriage is for better or for worse. To many people get married to quickly to the wrong person. I think its sad. Marriage is suppose to be one man one woman til death do them part. I agree with you, I dont think a lot of folks understand the true meaning of the words that they say. They make a commitment to each other in the eyes of god and then when it gets tough, they bail. Word of advice people, know your fiance before the big step..not just all the things you love about them, but the flaws they have too...it can save you a whole lot of heartache in the end or it make you one of those golden couples that are married for 60 years!
2007-11-19 14:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Alurah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree people are leaving their spouses far more than then did in years gone by, and I do not know why this is except I think it most likely has to do with the thought of not wanting to be tied down. that is horrible I know, but I think that is partly the reason. I have to say though I my husband and I just celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary- and renewed our vows in a ceremony at our church in August. It was a special day were we re-committed ourselves to each other, and praise God for His faithfulness to us through all the years- and can tell you our lives have not been easy- with chronic health problems and family issues- but God is faithful.
2007-11-19 14:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While this question involves generaliations, it is definitely not true in all cases.
I think that there are many couples out there who marry and don't think of marriage as a covenant before God. But then, a lot of it is because divorce is more acceptable than it was 40 years ago.
2007-11-19 14:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the later generations are led in to marriage too easily and may not be for the best of reasons. We cold make getting ther eharder so that the committment is more solid and therfor so are the vows.
2007-11-19 14:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Keep in mind a lot of people in the older generations did not know they had the option of leaving. Thus their divorce rate will be lower, but that says little about the overall quality of the marriage.
2007-11-19 14:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Runa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋