I've been screwing around with this guy from school. We went out one night.. drinking.. and one thing led to another and i lost my virginity to him. The next day, he seems to not mind it at all and goes off flirting with other girls. How do i get back at this a**hole!
2007-11-19 13:55:23 · 29 answers · asked by lazygrl5786 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best revenge is not to lower your self to his b.s. I say rise above him and ignore his mind games and the guy altogether.
2007-11-21 06:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sirius70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I know that you must feel betrayed somehow but it goes deeper than that. It's not his fault entirely he was just a participant. If your virginity was so important to you then why did you get drunk and carelessly lost it. You shouldn't even be drinking at such a young age. If you ask me the real person to blame here is you and deep down your dissapointed at yourself but are clouded with hate and want to get this guy back when really it was your own fault. The best thing for you to do is simply swallow your own pride and move on and learn from this experience. It will be hard and you probably won't agree with me at all but thats the simple truth you were the one who did the foolish thing by drinking and in making that choice you have to live with the consequences. Welcome to the real world luv and I seriously hope you learn your lesson.
2007-11-19 22:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Johny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boys will be boys sorry to say.
To me the best way is to just move on and not acknowledge him.
Don't ever speak of it again to him or his friends.
Boys tend to feed off the attention good or bad.
Hopefully you have learned from this mistake.
Drinking was not wise, you can't just blame him.
But you certainly don't want to drag this out.
Live and learn, be strong and move on.
I guess another option would be to bash his ego.
But really i don't think this is a good idea.
But depending on your age you might like this.
If everybody knows about it just say he was terrible.
Make fun of his physical features, etc.
Say he made funny sounds, say it was over in 10 seconds, etc...
But really taking that route will just drag it out and probably make things worse.
But you do what you think is best.
I just hope you're wiser.
Next time you could be a victim of something far worse.
2007-11-19 22:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rik S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out that the guy who I lost my v-card to was only using me (he denies it but I know within myself that he was) and he believes in open relationships so he may have been screwing other girls at the time cuz sometimes I went weeks without seeing him. I had broken up with him over a year ago but after I got out of a relationship, I deliberately hooked back up with him and played with his head for a bit then I kicked him in the a-s-s and ignored him like crazy. It pissed him right off because he was runnning behind me afterwards begging for me back and saying how he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and for me to have his baby, but I treated him the same way he treated me- as if he were expendable and not a priority. It was fun at the time but it was silly of me to stoop to his level and it was mean. But ha I sure taught him a lesson. He'll think twice before he screws with a girl like that again. Now I can move on in peace while he stays miserable. It's up to you what you do. But for my peace of mind that's the route I decided to take. But I made sure that after all of that was over, to cut him out of my life for good just in case he decided to retaliate. Hurting a guy's ego always seems to work................ I remember telling people that another ex of mine had a small penis and he was horrible in bed but it was all true so I didn't feel bad about it. He was too dang arrogant and full of himself anyway!!!
2007-11-19 22:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, a part of me feels bad for you, but it is your responsiblity to keep that treasure (virginity) safe at all cost. Getting drunk was reckless and even though he took it, you both were foolish to be drunk. I believe you should move on. obviously you didnt care much about your virginity nor did you learn anything from what has happened. he doesn't have to care...he never even loved you....its a little too late..but your virginity should be the second most important thing to you other than your life when it comes to yourself....hope you learn to protect what is most improtant
2007-11-19 22:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start flirting with him again. Make him believe that you want him. One night when you guys are out and he's horny. tell him u want to go to a hotel. Once you get him in the room get out 4 hand cuffs and put one on each limb and blind fold him. tell him that you'll be right back. Then find a gay stripper and let him in the room. haha dont forget to take pics and make copies and send then to all of his friends... better yet post them on the bulliten boards around school
2007-11-19 22:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by ..... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i did the same thing this summer. im 16 and i lost my virginity over the summer to this guy who i htought was there for me and was helping me get over the boy i loved. he would listen to my problem and be therefor me until one day he pressured me for sex and then after that he just ignored me and flirted with other girls. and you know what there really is no good revenge out there. the only revenge there is is to ignore hima nd move on wiht your life. dont take revenges in your hands let revenge come by it self. KARMA is a ****** and it will do its work in time. just you wait. i know it sux that he is a asshole and that you are full of ANGER with him. but just wait and you will see... just ignore him. dont make the situation BIg or WORSE .. keep what happened to yourself. and just be nice.
2007-11-19 22:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by kaycee says; 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on the real...
that's what you get.
for screwing around you know you're not supposed to and for drinking.
there is no getting back at him.
you can never get what you really want back (your virginity)
you just have to move on.
All of those lectures they give you in school and your parents give are for a reason. take it as a lesson learned and next time listen.
2007-11-19 22:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get revenge,here are a few facts for you to consider.
He didn't rape you, he didn't hold a gun to your head and force you to drink, you weren't too drunk to say "no" you weren't too drunk not to be able to have sex.
You put yourself in that situation and volunteered for the risk of the consequences you are suffering.Get revenge if you like, it wont change what happened, but you can do something to make your life better, and thats learn from your mistake and do not repeat it again.
2007-11-19 22:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Joe F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Haven't your parents ever taught you to find a nice guy? You brought this upon yourself. Next time don't hang out with jerks :)
You can get back at him with only humuliation. Hope you learnt your lesson though...
(Btw these kind of guys are scums and with no respect for women)
2007-11-19 22:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by maplesky86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was good enough for u cos by losing virginity to him u could know about the guy. U served his purpose and he is now flirting with other girls. He is a gone case for u. U better bring it to the notice of other girls with whom he is now flirting to be careful about him.
2007-11-19 22:00:17 · answer #11 · answered by nazbak 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋