Is this a sin?

Question

Well, if you are absolutely sure you are going to marry your bf or gf would it be OK to 'show each other's affection'? Not all hardcore with actual sex, but touching andd groping? Why does God want us to wait till marriage anyway? If you stick with one person your whole life would it be the same? And dedicate your relationship to him. I'm just wondering.

Answer 1

Descipline..You have to abstain from many things for the sake of descipline. If you go ahead with your desire, there is no end to it.

Answer 2

The most basic reason that was ever passed into mainstream population as a "rule" is because the changes of a pregnancy are stagnant. Okay, so, if you wait until you're married, you won't have a child out of wedlock, you won't bring shame to the family or yourselves, and you won't have a child (or children as the case is for some people) that you can not care for. In ancient times, people had dowries for marriage to be able to have at least the minimums to survive on their own. Like, now a days there are bridal showers to prepare the couple for their new life together, and at the weddings, many give gifts of money, people always need money. There is another saying, you can think with the big head or the little head, but no matter what you do, the big head is always going to have to answer for what the little head does.

Answer 3

I know this might sound harsh but my feelings are that you are trying to justify your inability to refrain from fleshly desires (remember this dearone, once you start touching and groping, it's difficult to stop). I would say that you will proceed according to how strong your faith is in God and the teachings of the Bible. Truthfully this is a personal decision for you and we should have no say in what is right or wrong in your situation as we know not what God has in store for you, I would ask God for the answer here.

Best wishes to you and your beloved.

Answer 4

I suppose that would depend on you both's self control. Are you able to just keep it at kisses and hugs or will you go past that and fall into sin?

The reason God wants us to refrain from sex is because He is a big jerk who wants us to have no fun and because He hate sex. (Just kidding) No, seriously because 1. You can then truly say, "I saved myself for you hon." 2. You will have less chances of getting STDS (Like Aids). 3. You will have less chances of being infertile. 4. Less chances of death or passing on STDS. 5. Less chances that you (if female) will get pregnant or someone else will get pregnant. 6. Then you can not feel guilty that if you end up with an STD (which chances increase the more sexual partners and the more sex is done) that once one has sex with the husband/wife it is passed onto that innocent victim.

God prevents it for health reasons and emotional reasons and physical reasons.

It is far better to wait and be with your husband and have sex and enjoy it without guilt and no STDS (Unless the husband sinned and has an STD).

Then it is to have sex for a while and end up infertile, with an STD (like Aids which has no cure, syphillus which I think can lead to death, Genital Herpes which I think causes itching down there, Gonorhea, etc.), unwanted child and having to decide between abortion, keeping it, or adoption, etc.

Answer 5

I believe real love and sexuality that comes from it is a complement to God and his creation of both. I do not believe in sin any more for it is so subjective.

If you are out of line you will feel it and that is enough "punishment" for anyone.

Your personal integrity is your measure.

God never gave a rule about marriage. Men did. They wrote it in books and subject us all to their opinion.

Maybe the men that wrote it wanted people to create good relationships rather than to just fornicate like animals in the wild.

Answer 6

You are supposed to honor the marriage bed. Other stuff will eventually lead to going through with the sexual act--so why tempt yourself. Statistics prove that people who sleep and live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce. Why not honor each other in all respects?

Answer 7

No, any form of sexual impurity (lust or physical contact) is a sin. When people care for one another enough to keep the law of chastity, their love, trust, and commitment increase, resulting in greater happiness and unity. In contrast, relationships built on sexual immorality sour quickly. Those who engage in sexual immorality often feel fear, guilt, and shame. Bitterness, jealousy, and hatred soon replace any positive feelings that once existed in their relationship.
The law of chastity is for our protection. Those who keep themselves sexually pure will avoid the spiritual and emotional damage that always comes from sharing physical intimacies with someone outside of marriage.

Answer 8

If you are absolutely sure you are going to marry him/her, then why would you have to go against the word of God? Just wait!

I CORINTHIANS 6:18
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Answer 9

do you love her? does she love you? what does love want for the other? true love. what does it desire? do you know? I will tell you then. It desires heaven for your beloved. can you get to heaven by fornication? No. does it matter that you want to have affection? love is a sacrafice. try sacraficing the desire for affection, and wait to consumate your marriage in the right way.

Answer 10

Why would you want to feed a month-old baby, stakes, when they should start by drinking milk? Everything has its season, you must wait for your season.