When you've wounded a person to their emotional core, how do you fix them?

Question

How do you make up for hurting a person?

Answer 1

sometimes the damage is done ...

Answer 2

You generally cannot just "fix" a person. You can apologize. You can attempt to undo some of the damage. You can show that you have changed (you will not do the same things again). But none of this will "fix" things. At best, thw wound will heal with time. Sometimes they never do. And be prepared to face the consequences of what you did.

Answer 3

It depends on what you did the severity of it.

Well if you can try to meet with the person if not call or whatever means to make contact.

Tell them from the heart how truly sorry you are.

Do things or offer to do things for the person or give gifts.

Show you are truly truly sorry. Don't just say words and not mean them.

Now once you have shown this person you are very sorry, you have done your part.

This person then needs to forgive you. Now depending on how severe the case was....is how easy/hard/quick/slow it will take.

The person will need to forgive on his/her own time.

Answer 4

You can ask God to fix it. But since he didn't break it, maybe you should take the lead.
Put your healing in the back seat and position yourself for their healing - low.
Tell them you were wrong. Why you were wrong. Then say you're sorry. That's it. Do not ask, expect or wait for them to accept your apology or do anything at all other than listen. Then politely excuse yourself - they may still not appreciate your company.
Then pray if you feel so inclined - for them, then you.
Lastly - let go of the idea that this will change anything at all.

Answer 5

Boy, that's tough. If it's someone you care about it almost hurts just as bad. Actually had someone hurt me pretty bad. He gave his explanation (motivation),was honest, and continued to be my friend in the true sense of the word. I suppose it was easy becauuse I was easy on him, but just wanting to make up for it will make all the difference in the world.

Answer 6

You may not be able to fix them, but taking complete responsibility for what you have done and making sincere amends to that person is a good start.

Answer 7

If you were wrong, ask for forgiveness, don't do it again, and give them time to heal. You can't fix a person, and you can never take back whatever you said or did. You simply have to ask forgiveness.

Answer 8

They can only fix theirself.

If you have hurt them, you must talk to them and do your best. Be honest, humble and loving. No stories, no words in reaction, no manipulation, no expectation that you can change it.

but if that is the fix or not depends on your act and their "take" on it.

Stay in your integrity!

Answer 9

Well, I guess if it were me I would first sincerely apologize and ask them to forgive me. I would tell them I was wrong to say something so hurtful and tell them I would try to make it up to them.

Then I would try to never ever hurt anyone like that again.

Answer 10

Without much detail on what happened my thoughts are:

Sincerely confess your wrong, validate their feelings by listening, openly and honestly discuss what happened and why, and reconfirm your heartfelt feelings for the person.

If the pain they are feeling is based on something truthful but done without finesse then validate their feelings by listening, openly and honestly discuss what happened and why, and reconfirm your heartfelt feelings for the person.

If you care you will be there for them.

Answer 11

I think they have to fix themselves, although you can start with a sincere apology that is backed by action which show that you acknowledge your wrongs and your willingness to make it up to them.