2007-11-19 12:53:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Divorce creates ex-wives, not God, lol.
the bible fundies will never tell you that not everything comes from God, good or bad.
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2007-11-19 12:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Ninja 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
When you look at Ephesians 5, wives are told to submit one time, while husbands are told to love their wives at least four times. Hmmm..... I personally believe that submission is required in situations that need a leader. For instance, an important decision has to made, so as a wife you will submit to your husband's wishes in that decision. It is not required, as you've mentioned, that you become a doormat or "submit" to his meanness. The way that his words affect you is your choice. He is controlling you with his words because you're letting him. Confront him as it happens (don't let it build up) and don't carry the burden of hurt for yourself. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, "no one can make you feel inferior without your permission." Those insults are his problem, not yours. Don't take them on yourself. When you stand up to him, you should accomplish two things: a) let him know how it made you feel and b) give the consequences of it to him. Try something like this: "That really hurt my feelings, because our relationship means more to me than that. I wish you didn't feel that way, so I hope you can work out that issue." Then just walk away. I also agree with the person who says he needs a Christian mentor. Your husband likely needs to confront and explore the root of his bitterness. Suggest that he spend time with a pastor or other man in the church that you respect, and you may wish to do the same with a comparable woman. There are some people here suggesting divorce or separation, but I'd really think of that as a last option. Marriage is tough, and it requires that you make an effort, even when it doesn't seem fair. Of course, if his abuse becomes physical that changes things a little. The best suggestion I've heard yet is to increase the amount of time you spend in prayer, both together and separately. Prayer will bring you closer to God, and the closer you get to Him, the closer you get to one another. Blessings!
2016-04-04 23:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God did not create ex's some time we chose for our self we don't get God's help on finding a mate we just see with our eyes and that way we are not letting God do the picking and then things go wrong and now who's fort is that but ours
2007-11-19 13:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by srdmn72 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The good Lord didn't invent ex-wives. Jesus said that Moses allowed divorce because of man's hardness of heart; and that God's ideal is one man and one woman together, and nothing must set them appart.
Separation exists because we have not learned to deal with people, we have not learned how to choose the right spouse... in short, because of man's sinful nature.
2007-11-19 13:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by garyenbaxter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The one's I've met could make it easy to justify the idea that God had nothing to do with it. I think they were made by the other guy. And I'm no sexist. Plus,I love my wife. But I have to be honest - the dovorced women I've known - well,I'm glad I never got mixed up with a woman like that. They tend to be real barracudas.
2007-11-19 13:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Galahad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because society has created a world that makes marriage difficult. People give up too easily, and don't take the search for their partner seriously.
2007-11-19 12:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants us to be married - and to STAY MARRIED. Man created ex-wives, not God.
2007-11-19 13:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by N L 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Humans created ex - wives, not God.
2007-11-19 12:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What god folks will never understand is that when you say 'god created everything' you have to mean 'everything'. If the same people also believe in fate, destiny or what-have-you, then god is again responsible. You cannot have it both ways.
Lady Morgana = feminist cant
2007-11-19 15:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi if a man passed his whole life with his wife than no one take part os sin upon him it is the part of life and it is the trick of lord
2007-11-19 15:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by NOBODY IS PERFECT I AM NO BODY? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't create ex-wives. People's bad deicisions and really "free will" caused and created divorces.
2007-11-19 12:58:06 · answer #11 · answered by * 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋