Why do women want to change us?

Question

I know there might be a bit of backlash on this one but here goes....an example:
Women are attracted to men that are ,inteligent,
go getters,,humorouse,dynamic and successfull!
To be all of these things by deffinition these men must also(to some degree) be forcefull,assertive,demanding,A type personalities
BUT
When they get us they are happy with all the good stuff but want us to suppress the parts they do not like!
Am i the only one that sees that we all come as a package?some good some bad?

Answer 1

I don't know if this is the answer you want, but lots of girls have their own idea's about the "perfect guy". Most girls think they deserve the perfect guy so they do whatever they can to get him. But when they can't, they try to change people so they can become perfect. That's how I see it

Answer 2

You have a point, however men are just as prone to wanting change in women; but women tend to be more obvious. When relationships are new and exciting we (men and women both) tend to overlook many things about a person that are "not desirable traits" in a mate, because we are sooo gaga over the great things about them. When the newness wears off and you're more comfortable with your significant other those traits you overlooked before; women will bring this to your attention, while men will go looking for a new woman!!!
I have learned from experience to "study" early on, changing someone doesn't happen, it only makes you miserable...plus I know I have some less than desirable traits myself, so I try to bite my tongue whenever I feel that urge to criticize, NOBODY IS PERFECT-

Answer 3

There's an invisible line between what you are as a professional, and how you behave in a relationship. A successful man learns the difference IMO. I don't try to change a man to be what I want him to be, I looked for one that already is that man. Some women want to latch on to the first one they're attracted to and force him into her mold... perhaps because they are afraid they will never find him.

Answer 4

One of the hard things for a woman to learn is that they cannot change a man. It's a hard part of life for them.
I Cr 13;8a
Ps 122;6

Answer 5

ya!! dont u hate it when girls say that they hate something about u, and then they want u to change. im a girl and i hate it when other girls do that, and im a girl myself :P but what really bugs me is when a girl goes out with u cause she likes u alot, so then why does she want to change u the next? it makes no ******* sence! cause they should-of liked u in the first place FOR WHO U R!! so why do they always have to change u... well my answer will be, is that they just want u to be perfect! and if your not that perfect then they have o change u! thats how it is for them. so thats why i dont ask be boyfriends to change!! cause its so stupid. so if a girl asks u next time tell her "no, u sould like me for who i am", or at leats i would say that to my girl friend if i was a guy ^_^ hope i helped!!

answerd by a crazy tom-boy :P

Answer 6

Not all woman are like that, i accept the whole package, thats a two way street

Answer 7

welcome to life...both sexes do that to some degree....

although i will say men try to do it BEFORE marriage more so
and women try to do it AFTER more so...