I need some support from believers, my husband's girlfriend called me?

Question

please read my post here
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071119164704AA17qZC&r=w

now i know some of you may be like what in the world do you want him for? but God is my redeemer, restorer, my everything and I have to believe that with prayer, fasting, faith, and patience and praising/worshipping the Almighty God will work it out His way, His time.

I'm even looking at his number and feel no desire to call him. God's in control.

Of course I would only take him back if he is transformed into a new creature in Christ. I'm not going to go back just b/c he wants me to...there HAS to be change there. A permanent Godly change.

Don't worry I'm not fasting all the time. I fasted to get answers and boy did I get them.

I am looking into a lawyer. God is good, I trust in Him. I'm doing what's good for me and my children. Better to show than tell my husband.

If he files, it will be contested of course. I cannot do anything without my Father above. He's held me up when I should be all depressed and sobbing...but no, I am a woman of God. The enemy thinks I'm just gonna shrivel and be all down and out. He's wrong. The Lord will bless me and these kids tremendously.

And I'm 26, not 40-ish =)

God has revealed to me some of the things he wants me to pursue and I'm moving on in terms of making a good life for me and my children. They are going to know they have their Father above who will never forsake them.

Rhank you everyone, especially to my Sisters and Brothers in Christ.

God is good. My circumstances are not bigger than God. I have my foot on the devil's head as I type! This is God's battle, I already have the victory. The devil thought he could take me 10 steps back with that phone call...for a moment it worked, but my Father is faithful, and I pray and ask in Jesus' mighty name that God's perfect will for my life and the lives of my children be done. Amen!!

Answer 1

Well to tell you the truth I hope you can work it out but it sounds like he needs to change his ways. I would suggest praying long and hard asking God what you should do. I will also say a little prayer for you too. I do want you to know that his sin is only behind denying the Holy Ghost and murder. That is why God has allowed divorce in such cases. However I have the feeling you knew that his behavior was this way before you ever married him and was thinking you would be all he needed and you could change him. At this point its up to you if you forgive him and try to make a go of it or if you decide he will never change and divorce him. Only you and God know your heart so just do what you know to be the right action.

Answer 2

Sorry in your problem. Seems terrible. Regarding your sons wellbeing situation seek advice ur surgeon and notice what abilities imporvement there may also be or if there will probably be a few style of growth map you must be following with him. It is impotant is keep calm in those instances when you consider that, your son is not going to upgrade until he thinks his mother is doing good. Regarding your ex husband. He turns out like a puppy and you're so much greater with out him. I endorse you progress clear of him simply to get a few area and clairity if you'll be able to. It isn't any well residing near with him. Try to handle your self and your son so you'll be able to probably discover any person to support handle you. Men are on the whole puppies and this does occur to distinctive ladies so, you're no longer the one one. Be powerful and calm.

Answer 3

A preacher once said dont hate the person but hate the sin and who is behind sin. Im not saying you hate him and Im not saying what he did has an excuse. I feel for you and your children. I do know that my experience in living for God that there has been many cases where God gets a broken home and puts it together. This website is filled with people that speak out of ignorance and are to busy complaining about inforcing our beliefes on them and they in the other hand are far worse and even insult us by harsh words. I said all that to say most people are not going to give you the write answer but only God knows. You have trusted in him so much all this time dont stop now. I dont believe God temps us because the bible says he dont but he does allow surtain thing to happen for several reasons; one it may be a point God wanted to prove to the devil like he did with job that you are one that will not leave him no mater the situation. 2 is because really in your mind you felt like you were serving God with all your heart but maybe you got to caught up in other things that got allowed it to happen so you can draw near to him again. And last but not least everybody must seek their own salvation with fear and tremboling. Your spouse is just making the wrong decesions. I know it hurts and betrayel is hard but really how many time do we not fail God our selfs. Now dont get me wrong,I am not saying take him back but what I am saying is pray for his soul because he does have one and if he really turns around and gets ahold of God through repentance then ask God to help you make it work out for the sake of your kids and because the bible says what God has bound together let not man seperate or put usunder. Remember 70 x 7 in a day we must forgive if they ask for forgivness and the bible does say the merciful shall obtain mercy. I pray God give you direction and help you make the right decision. Take care. Also sorry for the mispell words its late and spell check is not working for some reason.

Answer 4

After reading some of your posts, I am starting to get the impression that you appreciate being controlled and dominated, and hand over responsibility in life because you don't want to face it.

I don't blame you, you have been dealt a very bad hand, but at some point, you will have to realized that your husband is a cad, and that the girl who called you was not being nice, and upfront, she is trying to hurt you so that you will leave your husband to her.

As a male, I can understand his feelings of sexual need, but that doesn't excuse his behavior as unhealthy towards your kids.

You excuse his behavior, and have shown your kids that infidelity is OK.

If that is what you believe then thats fine, but I don't think from your posts that you do.

I hope things work out for you, but you may want to be a little more assertive and take control of the situation, instead of letting this guy convince you that God is in control, enabling his behavior.

Just my 2 cents, sorry to be so direct.....

Answer 5

I was once in your shoes with my ex husband. I wanted to believe God that he would put the family back together. I cried, begged, then I fast and prayed. He still file for divorce. But by the time it got to divorce. I was unsure of his name. I had forgotten all about him. This will be my prayer for you. To forget him move on and let God do his perfect work in your life. All of the things you said to her about him, why can't you take the same advice about him. We are so hard trying to keep people in our lives that does not want to be there. I am so glad God have fixed your heart. I will also say... You are entitled to peace and the girlfriend have no right to contact you. Stop talking to her, that is the enemy's way of trying to stop God's blessing. Look at you... you are moving forward with your life and out of the blue, she wants to share the bad news. That was to break you down again. If he has killed someone and she allowed him to lay with her after he murdered someone, then that only tells you what type of person she is. God is in control and I am so proud of you. YOU GO GIRL !!!!! And DOC, you are so right in all that you have said to her.

Answer 6

Maybe it is a blessing in disguise... check what is the correct attitude of Job... It would have affected you maybe more that you would have expected...

Job 31:9-10 (NIV) [Job declares under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost] "If my heart has been enticed by a woman, or if I have lurked at my neighbor's door, then may my wife grind another man's grain, and may other MEN sleep with her.

So be cool... God is not what most Christians think. Only when something affects you personally then you get to know God in a more personal way!

Answer 7

The course you have added in your details is the correct course. And when I pray, I will be asking God to continue to give you the strength you will need to endure this period in your life. As for support, well, email stamps are free, but I've read your post and it definitly sounds as if you know where your TRUE support comes from - our Heavenly Father. And I will also pray He continues to wrap His arms around you and let you know you are not alone!

† Travelling Prayer Warrior †

Answer 8

Keep the Faith and let God show you in his timeframe what he needs you to do. God never forces anyone to love somebody...married or not. If it ends in divorce then rejoice because it means someone better is waiting for you down the road. There are plenty of christian men who would love to meet a 40ish woman who believes in God and lives it.

Answer 9

I've been where you are, and I can tell you that in order to save your self respect, you need to get on with your life. God doesn't mess with our free will. Does your husband want to give up his girlfriend? If your husband does come around, your relationship will never be the same. I have no idea how many years it would take to resolve the trust issues involved, and his guilt would be a heavy burden for him. I didn't want to break up with my husband, either, then it occurred to me that the break up might be what God had planned. We get what we need, which is not always what we want. Pray that God will let you know what His will is concerning your situation. And, stop fasting! You need to take care of yourself, especially when your husband won't.

Answer 10

I'll answer your question with a question. Why do people elect to stay in a bad relationship that is getting worse all the time? If his girlfriend called its because he doesn't care and he wants you to exit out of the marriage. So in the end he saves face. And you are left holding the bag as to why the marriage ended. Rememer, God gave you an out, out of a bad marriage. Take it. Don't be a door mat.