He broke up with me nearly 2 months ago. I made myself look like a moron and begged for 3 weeks then gave up. Yesterday Im at work I see a missed call, of course the ex which I didnt call the number back. He goes to my best friend and asks about me when he said we needed to move on. I cant deal with his crap anymore. I want him to stay away from my friends if hes going to ask about me and move on like I am trying.
2007-11-19 11:30:39 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
part of me is curious why he called but I know it will only set me back.
2007-11-19 11:31:45 · update #1
he said absolutely no contact then he calls
2007-11-19 11:35:30 · update #2
he loves you he want to do anything for you maybe
2007-11-19 11:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your bf isn't stalking you, but he isn't over you yet, either. You might as well return the call; it can't hurt. Do you no longer have feelings for him? I mean, you begged for 3 weeks to get back together, then gave up and moved on, which was a good move on your part. Decide whether you'd rather be with him or without him. Then return his call, and tell him your decision. That may settle everything right there.
2007-11-19 11:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I just moved away and changed my number and blocked him from e-mailing me...but you're only 16. You need to let everyone around you aware of the situation. This is a very hard thing to do for some reason but you have to. Tell your mom everything! Otherwise you could be putting yourself and your family in danger. No contact with him at all! Don't even say "leave me alone" because that encourages it. DO NOT feel sorry for him. This is a control mechanism. Be careful...this is serious.
2016-05-24 06:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her
2016-04-28 01:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crap i went through the same thing. it's like this he broke up with you so he wasn't the one hurting he was feeling in control of the situation. when you begged him to come back he loved it it made him feel even better! when you stopped he was like what the heck and realized he lost control so guess what now that you grew some ta tas he's the one hurting! haha so sad for him!! the thing is guys don't ever know what they want they want to have the cake and eat it too so when you were begging he still had you around his finger but didn't feel bad if he was doin other girls. make sense? now you have the upper hand so do what ever you want!! have fun!
2007-11-19 11:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing except my ex's ex-girlfriend from before me wont learn to shut her mouth - just like I warned him from right before we broke up. He's now getting tired of it and is yelling at everyone that's promoting drama, I've been ignoring him ever since he broke up with me (and yes, I know he still asks about me). He hugged my BEST FRIEND in a bar when I'm not allowed to even talk to his friends. If he wants you back SOOOO bad, make him work for it, keep ignoring him hunny because you (. . and I lol) are worth so much more. .
2007-11-19 11:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. the best way to get rid of a stalker is non-engagement - every returned phonecall buys six more weeks.
Tell your friend that you are not interested in seeing this guy and if she respects your peace-of-mind, she will not give him any further information.
Why is he stalking you? Well, some males feel a need to control. He has obviously realized that you're willing to move on, but he cannot handle it. He wants to have control of you. Do not give in.
2007-11-19 11:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sorgatani 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it truly is stalking, you need to start documenting every instance that he tries to get in touch with you. You could have a restraining order placed against him, or you could ask a trustworthy male (brother, father, friend, pastor) to take him out for a coffee and tell him in no uncertain terms to stop stalking you or the police will be brought in.
2007-11-19 11:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mawia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your Friends that the break up was hard on you, that you tried to talk to him and fix the problems but he didn't want to. Now you are trying to heal, and they should not talk about you to the ex as this only makes it harder on both of you. Tell the friends that you are getting over him and now he is calling you and talking to them and you feel like he is using them to stalk you. And if he calls them again to tell him to stop calling you.
You didn't say if these are mutual friends. Friends that you both had before dating.
2007-11-19 11:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't stalking you, this isn't stalking. If he was stalking there would be multiple missed calls every day from him. Stop being so bloody paranoid.
Just because you aren't going out doesn't mean he doesn't want to be friends.
If he's asking your friends about you it's because he cares about you and wants to know how you're doing.
It seems that you may be the one with issues, just because you aren't going out doesn't mean that you should cut each other out of your lives completely.
p.s. it's your friends choice who they associate with not yours.
2007-11-19 11:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well its true if he broke with u then why is he still stalking you thats stupid probably he was confused and dosent know what he wants. guys are like that they just get with someone when they dont even know what they want. so you just move on. or try to clear things up between you and him k.
2007-11-19 11:40:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋