Well about a year ago, i started talking to a korean girl online. Soon enough, we started liking each other alot, and we started an online relationship. we sent gifts back and forth and we wanted to meet. well, we didnt have the means to do this really, since we lived on the opposite side of the world (i live in the u.s.) but ...
i got the idea to go to korea on my school's foreign exchange program. i had to work really hard to get the visa, money, passport, application, etc. to do all of this. i was supposed to leave in a couple months from now. i got worried sometimes during our relationship but she assured me that i can trust in her love, and that she couldnt wait to meet me in real life...
well, as of yesterday, i was talking to her on msn, and she just told me that she didnt love me anymore. i asked her why and she said she didnt know. and then i told her about how hard i had to work in order to do this, and she just said 'sorry'. nothing else....
2007-11-19 10:39:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Korea
she didnt give me a reason why she didnt love me anymore, and she seemed so cold...... even after i told her that there were other girls who lived closer to me who were interested in me but i didnt pursue them because i loved her....
now i have to come to korea alone, with noone waiting for me..... i feel so upset and nervous about all of this......
all i can think about is if all korean people, especially korean girls will treat me like this. i really like korean girls, but this experience just made me upset and ruined my mind....
i have never been betrayed like this before..... and i have never heard of this happening to anyone else..... i tried to be the nicest guy possible and it just seems that it cant be helped...
i want to start another relationship in korea.... but... i just dont want this to happen again.... i hope i will never be treated like this again either....
2007-11-19 10:44:22 · update #1
sorry to hear that but online dating to some is only a way to flirt and mess around without the real intention of ever seeing or getting together unless you were really on one of those finding love sites. maybe this was how she felt and when you intended to see her, she freaked out. but not all korean girls are like that. your chances of lasting with someone increases when you actually meet them in person and since you're going over there, you will definitely meet someone so don't worry. good luck!
2007-11-21 15:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Loving.You 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course not all Korean girls are like that.
That's a tough story. You probably will never know the truth about why she did that. It could be because her parents (especially the father) got involved, but it could be that she was just practicing her English on you. Maybe she just met someone else? Maybe she already has a boyfriend and was just playing you?
My advice would be to just move on and enjoy your time in Korea. Don't dwell on the past. There are a lot worse places to be a single man. There are lots of beautiful girls that like foreigners and would never treat you like what you have experienced. From my experiences in Korea and the foreign friends I have here, you probably will have a new Korean girlfriend within your first few months in Korea.
Good luck.
2007-11-19 14:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Busan-man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i’m not a korean but as a girl, i would say that your girl just being too worries and nervous of seeing you for the first time...
based on what you were saying, i think this girl really likes you...but at the same time she feels very distressing of what you will think of her...
the fact that online dating is not healthy could be one of the reasons...as you guys have never seen or known each other so well...and she might think that you are not for real...
why dont you give her some times and give her some assurances...i hope this will help...anyway, girls are just the same regardless which country they're from...
i'm sure she has her own reason...maybe she doesnt know how to tell ya...hope everything goes well...
2007-11-19 18:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by chubby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm filipina, but I think this question is biased. First of all, there are way better pics of Lee Hyori! I personally think it doesn't matter what race you're talking about some girls will be gorgeous and some will be alright. Both Filipinas and Koreans are beautiful in their own way.
2016-04-04 23:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman of any outside culture can seem quirky. Honestly, women of my own culture seem quirky. Who is to say what is normal in matters of the heart?
In the mid 90's I was in love with a girl whom I went to High School with. She had moved three states away but we had a plan. After spending a wonderful summer together I was going to join the Army to establish myself in a steady job and then we would marry. She went to college, I enlisted.
While I was in basic training I got my Dear John letter. Anyway, I finished basic, graduating with honors, and moved on with my life. I am now going to retire with a nice pension and be a bum by age 38. Not a bad deal and all because she screwed me over.
I agree with V-Man. Come to Korea, explore it, have a great time while you are here. You will be able to meet many Korean women and decide for yourself how they 'all' behave.
2007-11-19 15:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Boom Blatz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. :(
But cheer up.Maybe she really wanted to meet you.
I don't think she'd tell a lie for you to work really hard and then for her to hurt you.
This might be against her parents and her friends.
The parents in Korea are usually strict and they won't be quite happy to hear that a person she met online is coming to meet her.
She also might care too much of what you look like.
I think she would not like you if she looked at how you look instead of looking what kind of person you are.Please don't take this too hard on yourself but it is her fault for losing such a hard working man.
But you know what?
I suggest that you still go to Korea.You don't have to waste that hard work.Let the past move on.There's many other great girls in Korea.
Good luck!
2007-11-21 08:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one girl too..
from Korea..
but only friend...
and she has send me a present...
me too.....
maybe just this girl has a problem and she does not want to tell it to you..
I have talked with them and there are many friendly girls............
some of them have online boyfriends too...
but I don't know about hir relationship...
but it's stupid to say that all Koreans are so, because one girl was...
it's like saying that if one blond girl wears glasses it means that all blond girls wear glasses...
some of them are ice and of course some have to be rude ...
or maybe she was thinking it's all OK..
but until you meet ...
because at once she realized this situation (when could not realize it before)
that this relation cannot be (maybe because of some problems.. liike location etc...)
2007-11-20 03:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by ケチャッパー 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butterfly is correct. A girl in school can not go against her parents wishes.
Even adults have problems with their families if they date or want to marry someone who is not Korean.
I do not know what you can do since she is a girl and can not do things without her parents permission.
You are young and time will heal wounds to the heart.
Go on with your life and don't stop looking, this will not be the only time someone will break your heart.
2007-11-19 11:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by lestermount 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, im sorry, thats terrible..
dotn' take this as a racial way. this is just a generaly all girl thing. weather black white, asian, purple, blackanese,
i dotn' even think u should've even considered online dating..too difficult,u kinda shoulda seen this coming or just stopped the relationship.
same thing kinda happened to me...and i realized what i was doing was kinda stupid and kinda possibly dangerous so i never talked to the guy again
2007-11-19 14:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by MiMi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋