How to disipline this child?

Question

A good friend of mine came up to me the other day and told me that his son had gone to wall-mart and bought a package of size 6 diapers and then came home and put one on and went to sleep in just that. His son woke up and was wet so he put on another one of fear he was having real accidents. He put on clothes and went to watch TV but they where going out to breakfast. While eating my friend heard a crinkling of the diaper and called me knowing how good I am at advice but I didn't know how to answer. How would you disipline a 12 year old who bought diapers and peed in them?

Answer 1

Umm... My first question would be; How did a 12 year old manage to fit into size 6 diapers? My 2 year old daughter wears size 6 diapers! But the obvious answer to your question is... DON'T DISCIPLINE THAT CHILD. There is obviously some underlying issue that may need to be adressed by a child psychologist. By yelling and punishing this child, you may be doing more harm than good!

Answer 2

That's not really a discipline issue.

Making a kid feel guilty about bed wetting is counterproductive and apt to cause additional problems.

You might suggest the child get an exam from a doctor, as there may be physical issues. And also a therapist might be another suggestion as there may be mental issues.

Aside form that, a discouragement in a passive way would actually be changing the 12 year old's diaper. I know I'd feel really odd about that if I were the kid.

Answer 3

This is not a matter of discipline at all. What did he do wrong? It's weird, but he isn't hurting anybody. Now, if he stole the diapers, that would demand a punishment.

I think the thing to do is talk to him. Ask him why he is wearing diapers. He may need therapy. Or not. There are perfectly normal men out there who apparently have a diaper fetish. It's weird and it's not what I am into, but hey, I'm pretty vanilla.

I'm sure he has what he considers to be a logical explanation of the whole diaper thing. Perhaps you could work with him on figuring out an alternative to wearing diapers. If he is paranoid about wetting his bed, then get plastic sheets. If he is legitimately losing control of his badder, then he needs to go to the doctor. If he is freaking out because of erections or ejaculation, well, then he needs to be spoken to, not punished.

Answer 4

sure - i agree - actual discipline is certainly no longer the respond and that i propose you're taking it elementary - they do no longer seem to be spoiled brats..and if thats what you think of of them then why did you even evaluate taking them in?? the clarification you think of of them in that way is considering the fact which you have in no way had youngsters of your guy or woman and the clarification they may well be appearing up is via the extensive loss - you haven't any longer have been given any concept how they sense good now of their lives, incredibly the oldest - the suitable helpful punishment is doing what the 1st reaction pronounced - removing their well-known interest, interest, toy, telephone (if the ten 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous or any others have one) laptop, or something they might like; and dont unavoidably get rid of each and everything, basically some thing they actually delight in - i propose through beginning with 3 days and if their movements proceed then proceed to extra days going yet another day each and every time - i propose the utmost you bypass is two weeks dont concern - you will see quickly that they are going to start to savor what they have been given and savor you extra - that's an excellent downfall of their lives and you may supply them time...staying power *wow - and that i heavily CANT have faith a number of the responses in this internet site - ARE YOU intense??!! -- so ABUSIVE and incorrect -- disgusted -- THEYRE rattling youngsters FOR CHRISTS SAKE...GOD!!!*

Answer 5

That is really strange that the child did that. I guess it depends really. My brother wet the bed until he was a teenager and he just had a plastic cover on his bed and my mum washed the sheets quite a few times but there's people who can probably help with therapy.
I don't know, it sounds like a medical problem, I think his parents need to take charge and take him to a doctor.

Answer 6

A Psycologist is needed! This child has some issues that need to be addressed ASAP. It is not normal for a 12 year old to need diapers. He also may have a bladder infection and that is why he is having accidents. But I believe it is mental issues so please advise him to take his son to a doctor who will recommend a good psycologist.

Answer 7

Do not disipline him. I am going through the same thing. tell him to email me anytime he want's and he can talk to me about it. of course i don't go out buying diapers. Punishing him will only make it worse. my parents do not punish me for doing it and neither should your friend. Tell your friend if he punishes him he is a bad parent and he needs to hang his head in shame. he will grow out of it it. I am going to too!

Answer 8

he doesn't need discipline,he needs a kind ear to talk to.there could be issues at school that are terrifying this lad or he may have an infection causing uncontrollable urgency. whatever the cause,this kid has tried to deal with it himself due to embarrassment which deserves a pat on the back,he also needs someone he can trust. someone he knows will help and not ridicule or chastise. i really feel for this lad. it must be so distressing for him,yet he's tried to be adult about it and seek a solution,yet someone seeks to punish him. wrong on so many levels....listen,reassure,seek help if needed.

Answer 9

I would tell your friend to talk to her son about this and ask him why he is doing this. If the questioning doesn't work tell your friend to take him to the doctor and have him checked out. A bladder infection could be making him uncomfortable and he might be interpreting this uncomfort as a bladder problem or as a weak bladder. He could just be wanting attention. Tell your friend to give some extra attention to the boy. He doesn't need to be punished. he might just be wanting someone to notice him or he might be wanting someone to question him so he can say what problem he thinks he might be having.

Answer 10

he definately needs to see the doctor. you might want to let your friend know that while its not necessarily this but!!! bedwetting and such are symptoms of sexual abuse. just a warning. cuz thats a pretty HUGE thing for him to hear. its a symptom of course of other things too but this is what i think of first when i hear bedwetting. and the boy should not be shamed or ridiculed at all for any of the behaviors. whatever the reason.