How do I tell my parents that I want to go to rehab without them disowning me?

Question

My father is a recovering alcoholic drug addict of 17 years. I have an older sister that has 2 children that my mother is raising because my sister abuses meth. I have an older brother who has had 2 DUIs before his 21st birthday && I have been following in their footsteps. It started when I was 14 with drinking then when I was 16 I began smoking marijuana. Now I smoke, drink, && do coke on a daily basis. I dont want to end up like my sister && brother, but I am afraid I will. I am being evicted from my apartment because of my habits && I have also neglected speeding tickets, && court ordered NA && Community Service. My life is heading the WRONG way && I desprately want to change it. I want my family to be proud of me. I come from a pretty wealthy family && I want to go to rehab, but I would need them to pay for it. My parents know I smoke weed, but they dont know about the coke && my driniing habits && I am afraid that they might disown me because coke was my fathers drug of choice too

I really really want to get myself back together again, but how do I convince my parents that I really DO want the help? They have sent my oldest sister to rehab several times with no luck. How do I say all of this to them without killing them inside?? I know I am babbling but I really want to help myself, I just dont want to tear my family apart.... What do I do?

My parents are unaware that I am being evicted && they also do not know that I already have 2 misdemeanors for posession of marijuana, so I will be dropping a huge bomb on them, I just dont know if they can handle another drug abusing kid.... I feel so horrible... Please any advice, I am looking to make myself better so please please serious answers only. Im not looking for your opinion on how I have lived my life, trust me, my own opinion of my life is much worse than yours.

If it makes any difference, I am 19 now. I moved out as soon as I turned 18 becaue I had a horrible relationship with my father && his new wife (who USED to be my babysitter & moms bestfriend till the affair was made public).

Answer 1

you sound like you are ready to get help. i think if you tell your parents what you have told all of us here today then i think they will see how ready you are to get better. i hope that they help you. you could check yourself in and call them from there asking them to help you. there are not many people in the world like you who are ready to help themselves. bless you i pray you get that help.

Answer 2

I know if your parents know a little bit about what is going on, they would love to hear from your own mouth that you want to get help. That is such a strong thing for you to do. I think it is just best to sit down with your parents and have a personal conversation with them about the situation. If they are wealthy then they should have no problem paying for it. Just make sure that you let them know that this is what you really want to do. And that you dont wanna live the rest of your life as a drug addict. I dont see why they would say no. Espically if they love you and want you to get better. You just need to talk to them and explain what has been happening. Prove to them that going to rehab and getting help will be the best thing for you in life. Prove to them that you are serious about going. I hope you can get help. Best wishes and good luck!!!!!!

Answer 3

First off,come clean with your parents about everything.It sounds as if they have dealt with this issue on more than one occasion and know first hand how to help.Odds are if you come to them and explain you realize you have a problem,they will see how mature you are and ready you are for rehab.Unfortunately,when an addiction strikes,it is not just the disease of the one it hits.It is a family wide disease.It also sounds like your parents did not realize that at the time your dad got help.I seriously doubt if your parents are going to disown you if you give 110 percent to your recovery.Ask them to help with a residency rehab.Also,check with your court system and see if they have any help with a drug program.I know in our area,we have a program that helps pay for rehab,and has lots of strict rules,but after about 2 years of hard work and dedication,charges get reduced and people reclaim their life.This program has about a 92 percent success rate.And no matter what,let the courts know what is going on.They can't work with you if you don't work with them.

Answer 4

I doubt they'd disown you...more likely they will applaud the fact that you've come to the realization that you need help, and they'll probably do everything in their power to help you. Look at it this way, no one will understand better what you're going through than them because they've experienced it firsthand. In that regard they can be enormously helpful. You have a tough road ahead, even with support. But I am proud of your courage, and I wish you every good luck as you go through this. Stay up! God bless you.

Answer 5

ok now just because u made a couple mistakes, that doesnt effect u yet. ok u really need to tell them that u really need rehab. try setting and agreement w/ them like paying half when u get the money. also dont freak out be serious and really stern. plus they r ur parents and they do love u no matter wat. just ask for help. good luck remember u r still young

Answer 6

Just be honest, tell them everything,
if they can't handle it, thats their problem.
I f my child asked me for help, I would do everything possible to make it happen.
In your case, it has to happen, the thought of losing a child to drugs, is like a child dying,
I'm sure your parents will help.
They should be proud that you came to them with the truth, I would be.

Answer 7

yaeh well you do know that you have a problem so you need to try to solve it before u bring your firstgrade work home worring them tell them about the evition and that you wont to go to a rehab because of the drinking and mar. don't hurt them now that is big. and get over your mom and dad break up they did.

Answer 8

check yourself in then they will know that you are serious and that your willing to try even if you have to do it alone... good-luck...

Answer 9

check yourself in....then just tell them they should understand you if they love you