how do i be more outgoing??

Question

once i know someone for a little while im fine, but like i changed my classes around a little and in my new math class theres this really cute boy and how do i go about starting a conversation????

and its kinda obvious im new because theres like 12 people in the period im in.

Answer 1

wear revealing clothing

flirt with him

look at him

smile at him

talk to him

Answer 2

Read this step by step instructions from wikihow on how to start a conversation.

1. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his or her responding to you. If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 2.
2. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
3. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
4. Ask questions! People love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Movie-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
5. And another thing, do not ask any question about yourself, because that will most likely make the conversation about you, and people don't like that either.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). If the conversation goes on, you can possibly touch (lightly, don't claw) his or her hand, elbow or shoulder. Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.

Answer 3

Think of your comfort zone as a circle of light that surrounds you. Inside that circle you feel safe, secure, and confident.

Some of the people or situations that you would like to be a part of are just outside that circle.

The only way to reach them is to expand your comfort circle. When you do that, at first you feel a bit uncomfortable, less safe, secure, and confident. However, the act of enlarging your comfort circle makes it grow and in the future you will feel more comfortable.

I have found the way to grow my zone by being polite, interested in others, and by smiling a lot. Just start small with a smile and by saying high. You can add to that, but saying something about the math class. Once you break the ice, it gets easier.

Again, you will be uncomfortable at the start, but it will improve very fast and the next time, your circle will be larger.

Answer 4

The first key to being outgoing is being unafraid, and that comes from being comfortable with who you are.
Once you reach a point where you're happy with your own identity, then you can be yourself with no nervousness... this is why you warm up eventually... you lose the fear.
I was born different... missing fingers... so learned early that we are not our appearances... we are individuals... and no one is any better or worse than me, only different.
Now... if you approach every situation with this knowledge... and realize that what others think of you doesn't determine your self-worth... you can be confident all the time.

Walk up to him, introduce yourself, and ask him if he'd like to have lunch and talk sometime. Remember that if he says no, then he has missed out on the opportunity to get to know you better. It doesn't reflect on your self worth... you were offering to perhaps make a new friend.
Not everyone is going to like you. That's an important lesson.
But remember, you're not going to like everyone either.
It's that knowledge that is freedom from hurt.

Good luck
hope he's smart enough to want to get to know you

Answer 5

You have to just do it and get over your fears. The funny thing is the fear is usually so much worse than the actual thing. After you do it you'll be like "wow that wasn't so bad at all." Thinking up something to say before you actually go to say it might help a little.

Answer 6

girl b urself. Compliments help [not too many tho] I have the same problem [which i dunno y im tellin u this b/c i haven't yet started a convo w/ the person] But yeh, just approah him nicely or u could use the easy way out and if he's sum sorta of smart, just ask him for sum help on a math paper or sumthin, that is unless ur smart. hahaha, but i guess it counts when ur curteous. i dont talk to many ppl but i'm pretty outgoing. Sumthin I'd say is probably:
Hey, did u understand this question?
--if he says yeh, then ask him if he can help u real quick.
____or____
Heh, wuts ur name again?
--wait til he answers and then talk about him to a friend nearby, i guarantee he'll wanna kno wut ur talkin about if he hears his name. So he'll ask u and u take it from there.
When he asks wut u wer talkin about just tell him u wer talkin about how attractive he was.
Most of the time it helps to be funny. But sum ppl like me b/c i'm funny, kinda cool, & mean. Ppl think that b/c i'm so serious that it's funny and thats wut attracts ppl to me.
[remember: sum ppl take u talkin about them as an offense, so u might wanna think b4 u do this, if u have any doubts about his attitude.]

Answer 7

As a guy, I'd like to say that we like girls with a sense of humor. And just start off with small talk, to get a conversation started. Look for things you both have in common and go with it. And don't be afraid to say what you wanna say, try to improve your self-esteem. Good luck with this guy, just be yourself and follow my advice and you'll do great!

Answer 8

Tell him you are new in class, and ask some math problem related question. You can kill two birds with one stone: You can start a conversation, and you can see if he is smart or not.

Answer 9

Hey Lisa!! gurl u need to open up and try talking to this guy then only will u know him and his background, his likes, dislikes and then politely u can ask for his cell no. saying that in case u are absent n need to know what was taught in class..n i bet u, he wont say "NO"...As i too used these tricks n it works but not with any intention as such...But if u r really interested in this cute guy :) then gurl go ahead, don't delay as "Delay is Dangerous"....Wish u Good Luck n let me know what happened???....Enjoy n do what ur heart says :)....

Keep Smiling n Shining :)....

Answer 10

im like tht most of the time
takes me forever to actually get to know people especially when they are the opposite sex

i guess you could just sit next to him the next lesson you have with him say hello and compliment something
don't push it...you might look desperate
just start with little things like tht...b4 you know t im guessing you guys will just start talking like you've know each other forever.

Answer 11

just be yourself and relax you can start a convo by talking bout the class and the work or other things that are going on currently just make sure you dont try to hard