whats the better way?

Question

I'm a sophmore in highschool, and iv'e liked this boy for a year and a half now, and i finally want to tell him. I think he already knows, but im not sure. people have told him before that i liked him but when im around him i don't act like i like him even though i do. I want to know whats a better way to tell him, over the phone, or in person? ive asked my guy friends, and a few of them said in person, and some said over the phone. Also, how would you tell somebody that you liked them? I guess my problem is that im scared of being rejected by someone that i like sooo much. But the good part is, that he might like me back from the way he acts around me, but im not too sure.

thanks alot, everyone, and please be specific :)

Answer 1

I have to agree with the users that have said to do it in person.....the amazing thing here is that you've put so much time and effort into the planning of asking him out when you should have been using that time spending time with him or better yet, just asking him out......now especially if you've gotten others involved in the "HS dating ritual" then timing is definitely of the essence because if he's as great as you say he is, you're probably not the only one gunning for him........such is dating at all ages.......over the phone sorta shows a disconnect and it's impersonal unless you're already together (which obviously isnt the case here) and worse yet, if the 2 of you dont usually call each other, he could be put off by it wondering what the heck you're doing calling him and more importantly how you got his number (ppl seem to forget that if they're listed, everyone can find their number :P ), so as a rule I generally stay away from that because that lends to the stalker perception and you certainly dont want that.......there's some "good advice" I think on here from some of the other answers but I think the overall idea is to just not-too-threateningly ask him..........especially if your intuition (I know it's probably not fully developed yet but women have a sense about these things) is telling you that he's feeling you.........if your fear of being rejected by him prevents you from asking him in any way shape or form, you've already lost him and dont really have a chance at getting what you want........

pray on it and the answers will come to you.......good luck and God Bless

Answer 2

As a man, I prefer to be told in person. If you think that he likes you from the way he acts around you then go and get him. A good icebreaker is to suggest a movie or lunch on the weekend. This will let him know that you are genuinely interested. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Most likely he is just as nervous are you are. Relax take a deep breath and strike up a conversation.
Guys know its hard for a girl to tell us you like us.
SO if you tell him he will think.... hmmm she must like me alot to get the courage to tell me that. He should be flattered.
Also you could ask him to help you with math or science, something he is good at. A study session say at home or in the library tends to get you closer together. Then a thank you HUG is in order.

Answer 4

I would definitrly tell him in person. It's easier to do it over the phone, but more respectful to do it in person. You just need to find the right time when it's just you and him.

Don't be worried about rejection. If he doesn't, it's not the end of the world. You're only in high school. There's a lot more living to be done!! Maybe it would be his loss anyways!

Answer 5

Well, in person or on the phone is the same, he is probably just as interested. I really don't think it matters which route, I would just go for the more convenient route.

Also, saying you like someone is a little odd, especially in a school setting, do you know him outside of school? Have you been with him one on one? Once you get to really know him, you might NOT like him.

So, in the old people world, which is where you will be soon, we tend to ask people out for a drink (coffee in your case) a restaurant and etc. Get to know him more. So, no need to say I like you. Just say you "think" you like him and would like to explore it, and ask him on a date.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Well I'm glad that you are sure that you like but why are you the one that has to tell him? I mean it sounds like he likes you too...I would recommend that you give him a lot of hints by flirting with him and all but don't go and tell him how much you like him...It is a different ERA and women are more sure about what they do but I personally like to be chased.

Answer 8

Don't do that stupid note thing.. it's just weird. Just go up to him and ask if you could speak privately with him. Next, ask him if he likes you.. and just tell him that you have liked him for awhile.. and if he has been into too then there's a chance you might be together. good luck! =]

Answer 9

i think it is safe to tell the guy how you feel about him through mail-- would it be via email or just a simple note
it is safe because for example this guy dont have feelings for you, you wouldnt see his initial reaction, right?

before you proceed into telling this guy how you feel about him. i just want to know why do you want to tell this guy what you really feel about him?
is it because in the back of your mind you want to have a relationship with this guy?girl if this guy really like you just wait his first move..
anyway good luck!!

Answer 10

If you're afraid of rejection, why don't you flirt with him to let him know your feelings? Flirt with someone enough, and they take the hint that you like them as more than a friend.