Ive been cheating on my girlfriend and now I got 2 girls pregnant one has jus given birth the other has just announced shes pregnant.Living with my girlfriend and her kid became stressful and rather than moving on I just had some fun on the side.Now I feel very stupid and guilty for being such an irresponsible asshole.Both these other girls knew I had a girlfriend and live on the same street as me I know the truth will
emerge and I dont know what 2 do I feel so ashamed of my actions.Has this happened 2 any1 else out there ? if so what did you do ? what advice can u give ?
2007-11-19 07:56:27 · 44 answers · asked by 007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Deny, deny, deny . . . . never admit to any wrong doing. it's a matter of principle.
2. Get a plan to straighten yourself out. If you want one or other of the women then line that up and ditch the rest. Otherwise you better find a way to haul in loads of cash to keep them all happy.
2007-11-19 08:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by gdmagic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry dude, this is one bell that can't be unrung.
You knew you had a girlfriend, too, so don't put it all off on the women you were fooling around with. Are you sorry you got caught or are you really sorry that you did this? In the future, keep it zipped up or get it fixed. Before it's over with you are going to be hit with child support orders and custody papers.
I can tell you what my father did when the same thing happened to him...he wound up divorced, remarried, divorced and skipped town and didn't pay his child support payments. Now he's retired and having his pension garnished to repay the state for welfare payments and foodstamps his kids had to get when he stopped taking care of them.
Tell the current GF what the deal is and accept the fall out. She may not want to deal with the baby daddy drama that's going to hit.
Seriously, Good Luck to you.
2007-11-19 08:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You r an idiot! ever hear of a condom or r you so selfish you can't share the responsibility of protecting your partners??? where in God's name r ur parents.? or did u crawl out from under a rock. You sound like a dirt bag. GROW UP! get a freakin paternity test on both children. Buy some condoms and you need to discuss this with your parents. I know that they'll be upset at first but speak respectfully and honestly. if you can't control yourself buy some condoms if u can't afford them , email me back i'll send u some! you should be ashamed. It's the unborn children I'm worried about. Get on your knees and be a man and MAKE IT RIGHT
2007-11-19 08:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by brenda f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAN UP! FIRST, you need to tell your girlfriend whats going on. Then you need to start helping take care of the baby that was just born, it isn't the childs fault that you were careless and the baby shouldn't have to suffer because you slipped up. Then you need to start helping this other girl that is pregnant start preparing for the baby on the way. Being a single parent isn't easy and you don't have to make things work with the mother to be a good parent, just be there and take care of these little blessings. I would also suggest getting some better luck and birth control, because you obviously had either NONE, or just really BAD of both!
2007-11-19 08:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Die Young And Save Yourself 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell the truth and step up and take care of your children. Be a responsible and loving parent. It will be very difficult and it's going to be a long hard road, but your now responsible for ensuring that 2 other kids don't grow up and make the same mistakes you have made in your life. So don't screw it up.
Next, learn to use condoms.
2007-11-19 08:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by w_woody 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want an honest answer, I should grow up! You are responsible for bringing two lives into this world - so you must be prepared to be a man and accept your responsibilities.
I admire your frankness - to admit what you have been took guts, and for that you deserve respect. You simply have to come to terms with your actions. I honestly feel you are man enough to do that, Good luck!
2007-11-19 08:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by canterville87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first two people. Get a DNA test, get a few more jobs and start paying.
Also, I would tell your girlfriend right away. The situation sucks but she at least deserves to hear it from you and not someone else.
2007-11-19 08:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First tell your girlfriend the truth. If you want to stay with her then cut the relationship with the other women. You have to be a dad but that doesn't mean you have to be with any of the mothers. If you love your girlfriend and she forgives you, count yourself lucky.
Next time things get stressful, communicate don't cheat.
2007-11-19 08:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by GED422 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First come clean. Just get it over with it then yes ask for a DNA just to be on the safe side for the one born then yes get another job as even if you are taking care of them both they will become angry and fight for child support.
Good luck
2007-11-19 08:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Always Seeking 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is your girlfriends kid, your kid too or did she have it before?
Why don't you start a commune? Get the other 2 girl to go live with you in a new place.
2007-11-19 08:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋