I always see questions in this section about huge epic weddings with hundreds of people. I was wondering if anyone has ever had a small intimate wedding, maybe with immediate family and close friends and if so, were they satisfied with this arrangement?
2007-11-19 07:52:23 · 35 answers · asked by germaine_87313 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We maybe had 100 at our wedding, mostly church members, and yes, we were very happy. I've heard it said before that the smaller the wedding, the more likely you'll be together 50 years later. It has to do with those that have small weddings tend to be less materialistic and know what a marriage is supposed to be about.
2007-11-19 08:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
You have received many good comments on your question.
Yes, I too had a smaller wedding ....about 80 people...and it was 30 years ago. There are many, many questions/answers on here from people like you that DO want to plan a small wedding. Look at all the resolved questions.
I now live in a very small rural area, where the weddings are "over the top".....not with elegance or money spent....but on the number of people attending! I have been to weddings with 400, 500, 600+ people! I guess everyone in these small towns feels that they need to invite everyone!!! Personally, I hate it! I usually cannot even make my way to the bride/groom.....it's not personal at all....the bride and groom NEVER come around to the tables to talk!! It's utterly ridiculous!
Have your nice, intimate, small wedding....you WILL NOT regret it!
2007-11-19 12:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!! When you watch these shows, its like everyone and their uncle is invited!!
I was just at a wedding where there were only 30 guests. It wasn't a destination wedding, but they just felt that they only wanted a small group for an intimate ceremony. They're planning on having a big potluck dinner though so more people can celebrate with them.
I personally am having a small-ish wedding. We've got about 150 people on the list as of right now. The only reason my guest list is so big is because I've got 60 first and second cousins alone!!!! Grr... big families can be a pain!!
2007-11-19 08:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Megan Deann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, my wedding was 31 years ago, but we had about 50 people. But maybe that's the point. Having a small wedding didn't hurt us.
As a wedding minister, I've performed about 3,000 weddings. The largest was 700 in attendance. From my standpoint, I'm glad they are different sizes, styles, etc. But if you ask me which are the best weddings, it'd be the smaller ones. I just came from a ceremony: bride and groom, her parents and his mom. They were very happy. Perhaps that's smaller than a wedding needs to be, but if you get too many people, you can't speak to everyone there much less have time for a meaningful conversation.
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2007-11-19 08:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG YES! To me, that was the best way to go. My husband and I had only our immediate families and close friends. There was a total of about 25 people there. We were married by my mother's cousin (who is a minister) at his church and the reception was held in the church basement (there was a party room.) We served cake and punch. I had a simple white dress and my husband wore a dark suit. We had a maid of honor and a best man and that was it for the wedding party. It was very simple and intimate and we got to spend a lot of time with our family and friends. All in all, I think we spent about $800 on the whole thing. That includes our clothes, decorations, food, etc. We stayed at a bed and breakfast on our wedding night and my parents gave us the down payment for our house (since we kept the cost of the wedding to a minimum.) I never regretted having a small wedding. In fact, everyone who was there told us it was the best wedding they had ever been to.
2007-11-19 08:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We married in Las Vegas-I´m American, he´s German and it´s the easiest place to marry. It is the first (and the only) wedding for both of us. We married at Little Chapel of the Flowers, and had 14 of our closest family and friends in attendance.
My Dad told my Grandma it was the best, most intimate wedding he had ever attended, and my sister´s had 200+ guests, so he liked the intimacy. We did too, and I wouldn´t change a thing.
Plus, with the money we had left over from our wedding account, I bought a big screen TV for my husband as a wedding gift.
2007-11-20 02:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother's wedding was small -- around 40 people. We had it at a pantation/inn. Ceremony was in a gazebo, followed by a reception with drinks and a string quartet. Then inside for dinner. Cake on the porch. Bouquet on the porch/outside.
Not only were the bride and groom happy, but many people who attended said it was the best wedding they'd ever been to. And all the family weddings prior had been big city deals.
2007-11-19 08:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie O'Labrador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having a small wedding next year in the Carribean. I am inviting tons of people but with the reality of the expense, I know only about 10 will come, mostly parents and a stray sibling for each of us. I am totally okay with that. It will be all of us hanging out on the beach, drinking cocktails and having fun. I would never want the stress of a big wedding. And, ironically, I am an event planner by trade, but I would not want the stress of planning my own.
2007-11-19 07:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our ceremony (destination wedding) had 14 people including us and the officiant. We just had our immediate families. Everyone thanked us. It was pretty much stress free (at least as far as coordinating everyone). It was so intimate and nice to be able to really enjoy everyone's company. We were able to make a weekend out of it, which was also really nice and would have been harder to do with more people. I wouldn't have done it any other way. And I'd recommend this to anyone getting married.
2007-11-19 08:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by stahija 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married 5 days after Christmas so there was no getting folks together (welcome to the life of a military member..you do it when you can!). Just my parents & grandparents & our attendants.
The only things I would have changed about our wedding were the date and not having his family at the ceremony (his family never lets him forget the "poor planning" on his part with regard to date!)
A month & a half later we had a small reception (40 people??) and had a great time.
2007-11-19 08:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋