i've learned from my friends experiances that no one likes clingy, so now i just got my first boyfriend and i'm trying so so hard to not be clingy to him. but it's really hard because i like him so much. but i'm also scared that by my not being clingy (or attempting not to be) might seem like i don't care about him or our relationship. please ANY advice to help me out???
2007-11-19 07:38:54 · 13 answers · asked by ashley k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be yourself. If he doesn't like you for being yourself, then he isn't the right guy for you!
2007-11-19 07:42:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the type of guy you are dating. You should be able to talk to him and tell him you like him alot and like seeing/being around him. And see how he feels about that and if he likes being called all during the day or not/ and if he likes hanging out whenever you two have free time.
When you know this you have somewhere to start from....
To start I wouldn't call more than 3 times a day.
And I would invite him to do something once a day and if he cant then say ok and wait to see if he suggests an alternative time or day to do something. Then you will have something to look forward to and wont have as much anxiety wondering when the next tiem you are going tosee him will be,
2007-11-19 07:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by Faithful_tab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being clingy means you have to spend all of your free time with him and you don't keep up with your friends anymore and you won't let him see his friends. You are hanging on him in public constantly. You treat him as the center of your universe and you have no life outside of him.
Keep seeing your friends. If you make plans with your friends and then he comes in at the last minute with something he wants to do with you, then you don't ditch your friends you tell him that you made other plans and then you offer an alternative time to get together with him. Don't whine and pout if he wants to go out with his buddies instead of hang with you. Don't call and text him constantly through out the day--1, 2, 3 times a day is enough unless you are making plans to go somewhere.
Just be yourself but don't be available or always drop your plans every single time he calls.
2007-11-19 07:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he likes in a relationship, having the girl around often or not so much? when you walk beside him wait till he grabs your hand, or when he looks at you lovingly then kiss him or hug him, or do it when he least expects it.
Don't show signs of jealousy or question him that much about previous relationships, don't call him every few hours, limit it to like once a day unless he's calling you multiple times. See if he shows signs of being clingy before you start.
2007-11-19 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by shut_up_and_eat_your_cornflakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. I don't see my bf often, so I learned to not be as attached as before because if I did, I would always be depressed when I can't see him. I know it's hard to not be clingy especially if you are in love with your bf. But, you need to give your bf his own space sometimes. I suggest you to go spend more time with friends and just focus on what you have to do in your own life.
2007-11-19 07:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl be true to yourself. If you are the clingy type then go ahead and be clingy. some guys actually like that I know from my ex that he loved it. They love all the extra attention, but at the same time give him his space. Don't text/call him 24/7. Igf you have the urge to check up on him do so, and be honest. If he likes you like that well then good and if he doesn't then be like "oh well I din't like you anyways" even if you did!!!!
2007-11-19 07:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always reassure him how much you care without being clingy. Just call him up and let him know you were thinking about him or text him that your thinking of him. Just dont do it too often. Then when your not with him, he knows you care.
2007-11-19 07:42:34 · answer #7 · answered by solelone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be different with different guys. What you can do is give him the space he needs, if he wants to go out with his friends, don't make a fuss and don't invite yourself along. I don't know how old you are but when you are in highschool I think that he should spend about and equal amount of time with you and his friends. It might be hard but if you don't let him do that, you will eventually drive him away and that will be worse. If you don't figure it out with this guy though, don't worry. It takes time to figure out the right balance with you and the guy you are with.
2007-11-19 07:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. If you are clingy, then be clingy. I personally love clingy and my wife and I are very clingy.
If you try to be something you're not then you and your boyfriend will not be happy. But, if you feel like you are being more clingy than normal, there is probably something wrong in your relationship.
Take care,
Troy
2007-11-19 07:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
iv got the same problem
but i've found that if i concentrate on if im being too clingy or not then i end up not acting myself.
trust me, be who you are and if he has eny problems with enythin hes sure to say xx
2007-11-19 07:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea....
One text per 3 hours...that's my rule..
Only call him 2x a day..only once if he's busy..
Let him do his "guy" stuff without complaining about it
Go a day or two w/o seeing him..it'll make the time you're with him so much more special!
2007-11-19 07:42:37 · answer #11 · answered by Danielle M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋