I'm afraid that somebody could beat me up. What can I do to lessen this fear?

Question

I don't think learning aikido will help. I pay much attention to myself because of my clothing. I can't change it though. I don't have a job because I'm not able to leave my house after 4 pm.

Answer 1

there is always going to be "somebody" that can beat you up, but the point is do you have to be the one getting beat up, try not to get into situations that can cause this, and just for you to know, i'm sure that there are other kids who think the same of you and are afraid of you or your intelligence or how smart you are, they are not worthy of you have to worry about this .......my son helps out teachers to stay away from certain situations or kids that are bullies........good luck buddy

Answer 2

Everyone is saying the same thing, and I have to agree with them. In Junior High, I was picked on by everyone because I had no confidence if fighting and they knew it. And then someone offered a karate course. (Karate is not the end-all, be-all answer, but it does help to learn fighting in a controlled environment where you learn at YOUR pace, not somebody else's.)

Funny thing is, I've long since left high school and yet I've never had to defend myself. Not because I know karate, nobody knows that I do. But people tend to pick on those who APPEAR helpless. When you carry the appearance of not being worried, most people leave you alone in short order. And the rare few that are too stupid to recognize your confidence? Well, that's when you have the knowledge come in handy. Most of the time, it takes a lot less than a full-out karate brawl. A couple well-placed blocks and a hit or two is all it takes to change most people's minds.

Seeing some styles mentioned on here, I don't recommend any one style. I first learned Shotokan karate. Later on, I learned Tae Kwon Do. When my wife wanted to learn karate, she took Tang Soo Do, and so did I along with her. They are just that, styles. One is not intrinsically better than another.

And don't sign up for those 3-year contracts. Try a couple or so different styles and see which one is more preferable to YOU. And instructors make all the difference. It's not that one instructor is better than another, but they're people, and each has his own personality. Find the one whose personality is most compatible with you. If one doesn't seem to fit, don't apologize. YOU are the one paying for the lessons.

Answer 3

Go ahead and be afraid, because there is always someone that can beat someone else up. It doesn't matter how big or small you are the fact that it can happen is there. The likely hood of it happening is not that great. The only thing that you can make sure of, is that you don't do things to purposely make people mad.

Answer 4

Three solutions:
1. Get beat up. Pick a fight, and lose. It won't be quite as bad as you imagine.

2. Beat up someone else. Find someone more afraid than you are, and beat him/her up. It won't be quite as good as you imagine.

3. Do nothing. Absolutely nothing. If you are never noticed, no one will see you to beat you up. Don't speak up in class. Don't talk to friends. Don't look at anyone in the eye. Buy an online game, build up your character, and engross yourself in the game, destroying the hopes and dreams of all the characters you beat up.

Answer 5

Learn self defense. Also look at where you are walking. Some areas are more dangerous than others. The time of day could also be a problem. Walk with someone else. Also think about how you are carrying yourself. Some people look like an easier touch.

Answer 6

The best thing is to act assertively at all times, especially outdoors. Don't look afraid and people won't bother you, its the ones that look weak that they pick on.

Its unlikely someone is going to beat you up. If there is someone specific you are scared of, find someone in authority to confide in.

Answer 7

1. Tell someone about it
2. Take self-defense classes
3. Research some quick self-defense tips
4. Be AWARE of your surroundings
5. Stay with friends/in a crowd/public(this lessens chances of being beat up)

Answer 8

Someone could or will beat you up? Two different things. If you are just afraid in general you should take some self-defense classes. That would boost your confidence. If you feel threatened by someone in particular, you should report them.

Answer 9

If this is something that really worries you, look into self defense classes and sign up for one. By learning how to protect yourself, you won't be as afraid that someone may hurt you. Good luck!

Answer 10

Violence will lead 2 violence my lil' grasshopper....Talk 2 ur parents, get a bodyguard or contact ur local police dept. Can we all just get along?....An eye 4 an eye will leave the world blind !