And Steph(mine and Charley's(myexgirlfriend's) bestfriend) said I should ask her out. The only problem is I'm really good friends with this girl and even though me and Charley are still bestfriends even though I still have strong feelings for and I was bestfriends with her before we went out, I'm worried that if I ask her out and she says yes we'll split up and we'll never be friends again and that if she says no we'll be awkard around each other like what happened with me and Steph when I asked her out and she said no, it was a month until we started talking again. Also she doesn't hang about with me and Charley that much and only really hangs with Steph and Charley's even though she's my ex is a big part of my life and has never ditched me for a guy(she has had boyfriends but she's made sure she hangs about with me when she has a boyfriend) and I know if I got a girlfriend like April(the girl I fancy) I'd end up ditching Charley when she's never done that to me even when she's got a boyfriend.
What can I do, I like this girl but I don't want to ruin any friendships in the process?
I'm 15, April's 14 or 15, Steph's 13 going on 14 and Charley's 12 going on 13.
By the way this isn't affecting my school work, I'm getting A*s and As in science and maths without revising and with revising I'm getting college acceptable grades in English and other lessons.
Me and April talk alot in RE and she's quite helpful in that subject and we also talk about life at home in RE.
2007-11-19 07:04:24 · 11 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, instead of asking her out right away, why not just let things develop until you are more sure of what her response would be. You talk in RE, maybe find a way of asking if you could continue the interesting conversation you are having, whether that is have lunch at school together, or whatever you would do to ask her out. Tell her she is really interesting and that you enjoy talking to her but there is never enough time in school, would she consider going somewhere so you can talk more. You will know by her reaction if she wants to or not. If she does say no, tell her that's fair enough, but say that if she ever feels like having an interesting chat, she knows where to find you, and that by the way, you don't want her to feel you were hitting on her, just being friendly. Should do the trick, try and do it with as much confidence as you can.
By the way, well done for getting such excellent grades, with or without studying and thanks for not reporting me for answering that question the other day on the back of another one when the first one had already been closed. I hope that made sense, it has been a very long and stressful day.
2007-11-19 10:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tefi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...confusing...from experience I an tell you that there's nothing worse than losing a friend over a guy/girl...if it's meant to be, eventually everything will work out...talk to your friend about how you feel and how you think this girl might come between you and see what she thinks...ask the girl (April?) out but make sure you take out time to spend with your friends...if you do break up, part on good terms and maybe that way you can still be friends...Does that help because I wasn't too sure what exactly the question was...lol...
2007-11-19 09:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for all the thought process you have put into this -- I would advise you to continue to stay friends. Friends can sometimes turn into a serious relationship - I think alot of girls cherish a real friendship with a guy who isnt always trying to get into her pants-that is tough to find - and once they have a friend they can truly trust sometimes they find they are quite attracted & want in his pants!!
good luck to you whateve u do!
2007-11-19 07:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by dollycritter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance otherwise you will be left wondering what could have been and you don't want that you are only young once so take a chance and see what happens good luck!
2007-11-20 03:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think that you've got your feelings mixed up.
try and focus on who your heart really goes out to.
or why dont you just forget about them, if youre afraid that you might hurt other people when trying to get close with one. move on with another new girl. one that has nothing to do with your freinds, or friendship with other friends.
or simply just take a break...
2007-11-19 07:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make it a casual date like going to the movies or to the mall, keep it light and fancy free as they used to say (lol) then if you decide you don't want to date anymore the friendship will still be there*
2007-11-20 07:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should ask her out. if u dont u might regret it. and if u do just know that ifit does work out then make sure to spend time with both of them equally ok. And if it doesn't work out then try to be friends again ok.
2007-11-19 07:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it,life is too short and you will regret if you dont.
2007-11-19 07:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask her out as a friend, and see where it goes
2007-11-19 08:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by bluebrancall 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out next time you're with her Corey....
2007-11-19 07:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋