start trouble by ADDING TO THE STORY OR BY MAKING UP SOMETHING and then the person is in SHOCK ....Is it a mental illness???...he always laughs when i say..."that is false or that is wrong"...it is hurtful also...and then the other person has to defend theirself..WHAT is a matter with him??? honest answers only...It really does bother me...What can i do??? He is over 50 years old...
2007-11-19 07:03:53 · 5 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree. He won't change. He's a family bully who draws his power hurting others. Only you and your reactions can. Removing yourself from him, or, if you absolutely must be present, you can try saying something to others he's offending along the lines of "oh he has to do this to pretty much every topic, just ignore him"... trying to reason with him is futile, it just feeds on it, see if the websites on family bullies I attach describe some of what you've been experiencing. Good luck. It ain't you!! It's him.
2007-11-19 07:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen his type before. Their real lives aren't interesting enough, so they 'enhance' things a bit to make them more attention-worthy. It works until people figure out the game.
The sad part is how it becomes an addiction, and the stories and lies keep getting bigger and bigger to get the same 'rush'- just like drug abuse. Eventually, the person can spin out of reality and live in their own fantasy world, where they make stuff up as they go along.
This happened to a former friend of mine. He was convinced he had been in a TV commercial, but of course no such thing had ever happened. It was really bizarre because he believed it so completely.
He'd lied about things before- like meeting famous people or seeing newsworthy events or whatever, but his 'storytelling' grew to an obsessive level. He could create small details and relate things as if they'd really happened while telling his tall tales. It was scary.
I'm convinced it's a form of mental illness that's evolved to a sociopathic level. Your brother, like my former friend, simply cannot excel in social situations simply discussing their lives as they really are. Rather, they choose to 'enhance' the tale to get attention or admiration from others.
Get him help if you can. I cannot locate my former friend anymore- I must assume he's either under cover by choice, or is receiving help somewhere. I hope it's the latter...
2007-11-19 07:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What better way to get attention, then to make stories bigger, better, worse than before. If everyone would stop playing his game and completely ignore him, he would soon learn that people know that he is a lier. I would not comment on anything he had to say, and when he brings it up, look him straight in the eye and say "you are a lier, and I don't believe anything you say." Drop it at that, and don't argue or fight it. He will either change, or he will stay away.
2007-11-19 07:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is a pot stir-er... and will never change...... you should find a new group of friends.. ppl like that like to hurt ppl and if he likes you or hanging out with you he will stop. and he will never stop so just hang with someone else
2007-11-19 07:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dana S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be pathelogical liar because that is just weird.
2007-11-19 07:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋