Culturally, you should display the strengths of your cultural ancestry, a region known for displaying great reverence for adult, parents and elders.
Certainly you should be yourself, however realise and recognise that there is a certain protocol and decorum. I think your ability to convey those values and attributes will transcend any concerns they may have based on nationality and race.
2007-11-19 06:53:55
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answered by ultrabrit 3
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Good luck. Be polite and mannerly, offer to help his mom with stuff, and help her clear away the dishes. Try to chit chat with her a little in private, I'm sure she'll want to get to know you a little too and she'll probably want the opportunity to check you out on her own as all good moms should and do, so give her the chance. Also, wear something family appropriate, like a dress or skirt (longer rather than shorter) and a blouse/sweater (not too revealing, low cut or tight). Go easy on the makeup too, and don't "eat" your boyfriend - keep a respectable distance. Don't kiss him in front of his family - that's a big mom turn off!
PS just a tip, if you are wearing pantyhose, take a pair of socks or footies and put them in your bag, you don't want to go barefoot when its cold, its holiday season and she may have had the carpets scrubbed to be presentable and have a "No shoes on the carpet" rule. This is a courtesy thing really - we observe it with our families.
2007-11-19 14:54:15
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answered by Anonymous
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You should behave like a nice young lady. Wear something casual but tasteful, unless he is wearing like a suit or something...Thanksgiving tends to be a pretty casual affair. Take a small gift, like a bottle of wine, of a gift basket. Don't show up empty handed. Compliment them on their house, and be friendly.be prepared to be teased and be good natured about it..ALL parents/ siblings will tease the boyfriend or girlfriend..its only in fun :) They want to see how you react to them..best to just laugh along!!!
Uh, like someone else advised. DO NOT TALK ABOUT POLITICS, IRAQ, PAKISTAN politics, religion or anything else. Those are NOT topics to talk about at thanksgiving...
Or anytime for that matter. Do not get sucked into questions like..oh so how do you feel about everything going on with
Bhutto??? Politely side-step them. Change the topic to how much you love the turkey, OH so what do you do for a living...etc...
2007-11-19 14:51:55
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answered by Anonymous
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Be yourself with some serious respect. I would dress casual/dressy. Not a lot of make-up (if you wear it) less is more. Good Luck, Have fun and remember that your bf invited you because he is comfortable with you being there too! That should give you an extra confidence boost! Happy Thanksgiving!
2007-11-19 14:50:20
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answered by bigsky74 4
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Conservative doesn't mean racist, so I wouldn't be surprised by them not being bothered by your nationality.
Conservatives tend to prefer that you don't show too much leg or cleavage. Dress nicely, like you would for a fine restaurant.
Above all, be yourself! You want them to accept you for who you are, not who you pretended to be when you met them. Try to avoid politics and religion, but if they come up, be honest.
Be open-minded. Don't expect them to be a certain way, accept them for who they are, as you want them to accept you for who you are.
And good luck! I hope you have many years in a good relationship with your boyfriend.
2007-11-19 14:53:53
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answered by ima_super_geek 4
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these rules are universal:
DO NOT talk about the following:
politics
religion
war
offer to contribute as much as you can. i don't want to be rude but it might be a good idea if you don't wear traditional pakistani clothing, just to make them feel at ease with you until they're comfortable with you. if they turn out to be really ignorant then let your guy know hes got a choice to make. never kiss ANYONE'S butt.
do you like football? watch with them. if it's fifty fify with the women and the men on football try spending time with his mom.
2007-11-19 14:50:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Dress the part, but I am sure they will love you just as your boyfriend does. Just act like a member of the family, and you will do great.
2007-11-19 14:49:30
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answered by Ronnie j 4
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Just be yourself!
Dress in anything that's comfortable, not too revealing, but that you would normally wear to a nice dinner out.
2007-11-19 14:48:28
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answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6
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All I can say is be yourself. If you go trying to be perfect they will see through it, and you will end up looking like a fool. Remain calm, and be yourself. If your boyfriend loves you I am sure his parents will too. Best of luck. Just remember be yourself...that is who your boyfriend fell in love with.
2007-11-19 14:50:06
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answered by Sarah Brown 2
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Be sweet and offer to help with cooking and cleaning. Mom's love that! Dress in nice pants and a pretty sweater.
2007-11-19 14:47:50
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answered by Sour Girl™ 6
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