me and my boyfriend are now together for 2 years..i feel that i love him more than he does or maybe he just doesnt know how to express it..i talked to him many times and noithing changes..for example i am the one always running after seeing him, callin him, spending time together...he never sacrifised something to do me something special...wat should i do?
2007-11-19 06:44:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Back off some, take a night or two when you would have made the effort and just hang out with friends, or something of that nature. If he misses you he will make the effort, if he gets ticked off that you don't make the effort, he isn't worth the time. Either way you have your answer.
2007-11-19 06:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mic K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not ever call you because you are always the one calling. Why should he put any effort into the relationship when you're willing to do all the work for both of you?
Try an experiment and don't call him for a few of days (shoot for 3 or 4 days). Make sure you are out with friends or going to the movies or shopping or doing anything except thinking about him. See how long it takes him to get in touch with you. If he doesn't call you within say... 4 or 5 days then you'll know he's only with you because you're convenient and not because he's really interested in you.
If that is the case, then you have a decision to make. Do you want someone who is with you because you're there, keeping in mind you will be the one who is always doing all of the work or do you want someone who wants you?
2007-11-19 14:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what he does. If he doesn't call you normally then don't call him; if he doesnt make the initiative to spend time together then don't do it either. If he does care then he will realize what it feels like and try to change, if he doesn't even realize then maybe you need to think about reevaluating the relationship and seeing if its really worth it. So give him a taste of his own medicine, and when he comes at you all pist off then say well I was getting through to you by talking so I figured I would get through to you by acting. Good luck and be STRONG! It might be hard especially if it takes him a couple of days to realize, but it will all be for the best.
2007-11-19 14:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by vsvp_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 1st and most important thing to do to set this guy straight is to turn things around on him. Stop chasing him, stop calling him, stop making him the center of your universe. Its going to be hard. I've been there but let me tell you, once he sees that you've got other things then him going on in your life, you'll be golden. Pick up some hobbies, join clubs, etc. If he doesnt respond to this change then sweetie you may need to sit down and really take a look at your relationship.
2007-11-19 15:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop chasing. If he wants you around, he'll let you know. If you've talked and nothing changes, maybe he's just lazy and knows you'll do it all for him. If you stop, then he'll know he can't push you around. It's better to find out this stuff now then get married and find out later. If it doesn't reciprocate after you stop chasing, move on.
2007-11-19 14:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down an have a long talk... 2 years is alot of time together... but dont waste 2 more if he's not going to sacrifice a lil for u..
2007-11-19 14:48:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him as much...maybe he's taking you for granted because he knows you'll do all the work....He should start calling you more. If he doesn't, you may want to give up on him...Relationships are supposed to be EQUAL in effort.
2007-11-19 14:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by Dance Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop making the effort as much. im not saying stop loving him but cut back and make him do some of the dirty work. Good Luck!
2007-11-19 14:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Luvybuddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will only continue to disappoint you. Kick him to the curb. He will betray you.
2007-11-19 14:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by good_king_tao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop sacrificing time and everythin on him let him come to you for a change.
2007-11-19 14:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by stephani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋