for the past 3 weeks i have been going through alot with my 5 year old son his temper has really gotten out of control i really do not know what's going on with him or what to do about it he is a really sweet kid but it is like something has changed in him and i do not know how to get him back on track can any one give me some advice please i really need help with him
2007-11-19 06:35:21 · 9 answers · asked by sarita.gilbert 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Have you talked with his peditrician about his behavioral change? Do not let them tellyou automatically it's ADD/ADHD. Testing cannot be done until at LEAST age 6 and usually 8-9 is more preferable. It could also be Oppositional Defiant Disorder or a number of other neuro problems. OR it could be he's 5 and testing how far he can push the envelope. You need to start letting him know there are consequences to actions (take away privelges when he acts out). If it continues, or at the behest of your pediatrician, you may seek out a neuropsychological consult.
2007-11-19 06:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a sudden change from his normal behavior, you need to find out if something happened to him. Is there a problem at school or daycare? Could he have been abused by someone? Has there been some change in your family or routine? Encourage him to talk to you about what is bothering him. Pick a time when he is calm and seems receptive, and let him know it's okay for him to tell you about it.
Kids are sometimes reluctant to tell their parents what's going on, so just keep trying. Meanwhile, talk with his teacher, and any other adults that he is around to try to figure out what might be happening.
2007-11-19 14:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by daa 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am in total agreement with daa and someguy91730 on this one. Before you can know how to handle or change your little guys behavior you need to find out what the root problem is. Have there been any family changes (ie. divorce, death in the family, birth of sibling etc)? Is he being bullied at school. Has he been physically or emotionally harmed by someone? You can schedule an appointment with his teacher and guidance counselor to see if he is exhibiting "bad" behavior at school or if it's just at home. If you can figure out what is triggering his behavior you stand a better chance of getting him back on track.
2007-11-19 15:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by twiceblessed07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when i was 5 i had the same problem. Its not a disease and you shouldnt spank him. What happened with me was the surrounding of school and class. You would be surprised what 5 year old children know about. But my parents talked to my teacher and the teacher said he sometimes gets mad too, and that a lot of the other kids are like that too. My parents paid more attention to me and they stopped fighting and yelling with eachother too. Maybe you and your husband yell at eachother too and your son learns.You should sit down and talk with him and pay more attention to him. Talk to his teacher to see if he is like that at school too. And if you and your husband fight a lot, that may be the problem too.
2007-11-19 15:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you know, Allot of peoples first reaction to this question was to spank him and thats it,well....If hes hitting,(i dont know if he is)hitting him for hitting is not being a role model,something is bothering him and young children arent capable of just saying,ok, this is whats bothering me....Im having this same problem with my 6 yr. old,He is going to counseling and im finding out that his behavoir is due to some changes in his life.Please dont spank him,he needs you to lean on and be his support,just have patience and get him someone to talk to.
2007-11-19 19:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by am 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try negative reinforcement( saying NO or spanking), try time out (and dont give in) and finlly try positive reinforcenment( like good for u for washing ur hands) ... Trust me i have a 5 yr old and it takes a delicate balance between all 3 to keep her in line lol but mainly choose ur battles , I mean is the world gonna end if he watches NEMO for the millionth time... good luck
2007-11-19 14:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by kellycooper2003 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Once upon a time people spanked their kids, it seemed to work. I'm not saying beat him, but a good smack on the buttom just might do wonders.
2007-11-19 14:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by LoopyLou 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
back hand that little **** or put him in a class u know for that type of behaivor, go to a docter
2007-11-19 14:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 7⤋
spank his bottom! that simple!
2007-11-19 14:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by *Mommy of 3* 4 · 0⤊ 7⤋