Is there anything wrong with telling someone that you are attracted to them???

Question

i don't think so....what can you do when they are playing you???
winning isn't everything......winning fair is ...u people agree???
I don't need to cry???I never do............

Answer 1

No, I don't see anything wrong with that. But I suggest you be careful as to how you go about telling them how you feel.

Answer 2

...uh... your details don't especially help clarify your question... but nevermind that...

Nope. There's nothing wrong with telling someone directly that you are attracted to them. Sometimes it goes well; sometimes it has no effect; sometimes, some people can't manage that kind of input, but that's his or her problem. Just to tell someone you're attracted to him or her isn't wrong.

It's safe to expect to be be treated with respect after you tell them, but that's it. Hopefully they will be honest in their response to you, but unfortunately, you can't expect that.

If attraction was always mutual, life and love would be so much more simple! Alas, 'tis not the case.

During the 35 odd years I've had crushes on people, I think I've managed to directly tell *maybe* 1 in 4 (could be 1 in 5 or even 1 in 10!!!) how I felt. I'm a little shy. Out of all the people I told this whom I wanted to date, maybe 1 in 4 worked out where we went out at least once--so if you do math that's about 6 times out of 100 (or as few as 2 out of 100, if I only spoke up 1/10). All the ones I never told? There are 2 people I still regret never telling directly. I doubt I ever get another chance.

I believe it is better regret what you have done rather than what you did not do, probably because I'm more likely to not do something...

Best wishes to ya!

Answer 3

It all depends on what you're expecting in return. Everyone thinks in a different way right? Well one person might take it as a simple compliment and would be fine with it, while another might take it to a totall different extreme. They could either take that as I sign that you're showing interest or if they don't want anything to do with you they could shy away from you instead. However you look at it when you tell someone that they're attractive you've opened the door or have made an invitation whether you inteded to or not.

Answer 4

I tell people I like them all the time. I would even tell someone I was attracted to them. But I can get away with it. I am happily married and 60 years old. It's great the things I can get away with now that I couldn't in my dating years. I was pretty shy and would stutter. Someone has to start the ball rolling, why not you?

Answer 5

I don't think there is any thing wrong unless this person is in a relationship. Then you are setting yourself up for heartache. If your gut tells you that they are playing you, dump them fast. Winning fair is important to people with morals but so many people just do not have them so you are on an uneven playing field.

Answer 6

I don't think there is anything wrong with telling some =one your attracted to them, I think its a very mature thing to do.

Answer 7

It's good to be honest with people; especially when it comes to expressing your feelings. We all need to hear how special we are. Sometimes you need to be the "brave one" to take the first step, and make the first move. What a compliment to that other person that you want to tell them they are attractive!!
Go for it, and best of everything to you!!

Answer 8

Not at all, just be respectable and kind and considerate in so doing. Be prepared for whatever might take place and go with it as it comes to you. Don't push for anything more. You will know. Good luck.

Answer 9

I think it's OK to tell him, too. You might get hurt if he doesn't seem interested, and, like you said, he's just playing you. If you want it to go further, you need to bring it to a conclusion and confront him with how you feel. However, if you think he's playing you and not interested, I'd just stay away from him and spare getting hurt.

Answer 10

If the person is available then there is nothing wrong with telling them. But if they are taken, then what's the point? What would you expect them to do after telling them?