Who goes when?!? PLEASE HELP!?

Question

I'm getting married in 3 weeks and we didn't hire a wedding coordinator. Who usually coordinates the wedding procession for the ceremony in this situation? The only weddings I've ever been in or to have hired someone to help. Is there a particular person other than a coordinator (DJ, minister) that is supposed to do this? Any help is appreciated! :c)

Answer 1

We had a Deacon in our church that directed things the morning of the wedding. But just for your piece of mind this is usually how it goes.

First is the seating of the mothers
Grooms Mother first
Brides Mother

Then the men enter in this order usually from a side door at the front of the church
Minister
Groom
Best Man
Groomsmen

Then begins the processional
Bridesmaids
Maid of honor
Flower Girl and Ring Bearer (if you have one)
Bride and Father of Bride

Then the recessional goes
Bride and Groom
Best man and MOH
Groomsmen and Bridesmaids two by two
Flower Girls and Ringbearer
Parents of the bride
Parents of the groom

In your recieving line, if you have one it should go
Parents of the bride
Bride
Groom
Parents of the Groom
if you want to have your attendants in the line it goes
MOH
Best Man
then your bridesmaid and groomsmen alternating boy/girl

Dont have the kids be in the recieving line, thats playing with fire.

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Even if you have a rehearsal, a lot of people forget by the wedding what they are supposed to do.

That's why you must have somebody the day of to get everybody lined up, remind them what to do and get things going.

Here are some other tips that may not have been mentioned:

Tip 1: Encourage all in the wedding party to be on time. If you have family and friends who are habitually late, and your rehearsal is scheduled at 6 pm, tell them to be there at 5:30. As you may know, some wedding venues only give an hour for rehearsal and you have to be out.

Tip 2: Work out your wedding preferences ahead of time with your officiant & director. Your rehearsal is a time to rehearse not plan. If you don't have a plan, some well-meaning friend may try to take over your wedding. Plus, the rehearsal will take much longer if you are not prepared.

Tip 3: If you aren't using a professional director, at least select a friend or family member to serve in that role - someone who has strong enough personality to get people moving and who knows what you want & will see to it that it happens. You don't need to be worrying about a bunch of details on your wedding day.

Tip 4: If the wedding officiant is at the rehearsal (only about half the time wedding directors tell me) the marriage ceremony is not read in full at the rehearsal. This should be worked out ahead of time with your officiant. He knows what you want; you know what to expect from him. You should practice things like passing the bouquet, exchanging the rings, and any other movements you might be making.

Tip 5: Take pictures at your rehearsal. It's part of the celebration.

Tip 6: Before the rehearsal is over, remind everyone what time are they are supposed to arrive at the wedding venue.

Answer 3

Sometimes the place where you get married has a wedding coordinator that is included just for the day in order to tell you when to walk, ect. That's how it was at my wedding on nov. 10. Check with them. Or if it's a church wedding, the Minister/preist usually does it. Don't stress, just call them.

Answer 4

Are you having a wedding rehearsal the day before the wedding?? That's normally where everyone finds out how they're standing, where they're standing, when to go, so on and so forth. Usually the person presiding over the ceremony knows enough to where you're supposed to be. Before that though, lookup bridal party processionals. It should give you a list of different ways that you can walk down the aisle.

Take a breather!! You're almost there...

Answer 5

I did not have a coordinator either. It was the best money i ever saved. Basically, if you know what you want, get a friend who is not in the wedding to follow the flow of how you want things to go. Get them to tell each person when it is their turn to walk down the aisle. Make sure they get everyone introduced properly during the reception. Just have them to make sure everything goes in the order that you want it to go. make sure it is someone that has your best interest at heart and they will make sure everything goes as planned. Don't get anyone who is jealous that you didn't ask them to be in your wedding.

Answer 6

this is the traditional order of a wedding processional:
The mothers of the bride and groom are seated after all guests are seated, and immediately before the start of the processional music. They are usually escorted to their seats by a brother of the bride or groom, or by another usher.
After they are seated, the officiant, groom and best man enter by a side door and wait at the altar.
Groomsmen may also enter by a side door, or can escort the bridesmaids.
Bridesmaids
Ring bearer and/or flower girl
Maid or Matron of Honor
The bride, escorted by her father or other close male family member or friend. At the front of the aisle, her escort can remain standing with her until the minister asks "Who gives this woman in marriage?" to which he responds "I do," or "Her mother and I do." However, some people feel this tradition is old fashioned and sexist, and choose to forgo it. In such a case, her escort walks with the bride to the front of the aisle, and then takes his seat in the front row.

Answer 7

i coordinated my own wedding...from entering the church to the entire set up at the reception. The way I did was: the brides maids and groomsmen walk in side by side (not holding arms) then was my Sir of Honor (which is really the maid of honor but I had my twin brother stand by my side) then I had the ring bearer walk in then i had the 2 little flower girls walk in then it was my father and I. Hope this helps

Answer 8

That is what the rehearsal is for. Dont stress it will all fall into place. The minister will tell you what to do and brides were co-ordinating themselves for years before wedding planners became popular.
Good luck

Answer 9

The minister or organist can be asked to signal the procession....I've seen it where the maid of honor goes first and then the rest of the girls ...or she can go last and have the other girls go before her. If you have a rehearsal, they work it all out then...how fast to walk, etc. Good luck...happy marriage!

Answer 10

there is ucually a church coordinator that can help you with that.
DJ's can help with the plannings for reception. but mostly, for the ceremony, it will be the church coordinator.