I don't mind people being rude at church because that's just who they are but when it interferes with my praying or trying to be silent, and it goes on for too long it's just sad.
There was this family of a father and 3 teenagers who came in late and I had to get up for them--20 minutes late. O.k. Fine, then another daughter comes in later, and then the kids giggle, laugh, text message on the cell, and hit each other on the back after Holy Communion, and so forth.....
I was raised to be good at Holy Mass, pay attention, and act as if I was in God's House with reverence.
After I told this family politely: "We are in God's house and should be reverent not acting like it's your home playground."
The family looked at me so shocked and mortified, and went out with such shame.
I was taught not to say anything to rude people but this continued the whole time of Mass and it was right next to me.
Your thoughts, please.
2007-11-19 06:13:37 · 10 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you did the right thing...... i bet if you was at the movies and said that everyone would have clapped...... why should one family ruin it for 20 families around them....... you have a right to be treated with the respect your give.... and they didn't care.....
2007-11-19 07:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dana S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business - move your seat somewhere else. Everyone worships God in different ways. Also, kids especially need to be praised for even going to church these days. Congrats - you probably chased these kids right out of church permanently! You have to expect some cutting up from kids and teens - it is natural. They don't have the attention span that adults have and their brains have not matured yet. Now, if it was a group of adults behaving that way then you'ld have a case.
2007-11-19 14:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dina K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you said the right thing, but I would have found a time to talk to the parents privately about it rather than shaming them right there in public. After all, the goal is not to alienate them, but for them to participate in worship more appropriately. If you can safeguard someone's dignity, they are more likely to respond positively. As it is, they might be talking right now about how rude YOU were (in their eyes) and not have gotten the message you meant to convey.
What I have done sometimes is to smile and talk directly to the child in a friendly voice. "Excuse me, we're trying to pray to God now. Could you please be a little quieter? thanks." The shock shuts them up! lol
2007-11-19 14:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michael M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way to stand up for what's right!
This happened to me several weeks ago - almost identical! I turned around to the mom & said "Do you think you all could take the distractions outside the chapel?" They all glared at me (two teens & parents) BUT they stopped talking.
They ended up sitting behind us again ast week and were completely silent. I did make a point to greet them warmly when they sat behind me so they know there are no hard feelings.
I think lots of people are completely unaware of how their actions impact others and that their 'freedom to distract' ceases when it infringes on another's ability to worship.
2007-11-19 14:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People need to show respect for others during mass. It's normal to see little kids goof around in church. But for teenagers, there is no excuse. They know better.
2007-11-19 14:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by andy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you told the truth.I don't feel you was rude but you was pointing out that you was there to pray and to worship God.You know can only pry for them that they will come back and learn from what you had said to them,I do have to say,They did not have to be there,But they chose to come,You have to give them credit for that.
2007-11-19 14:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Maybe they will better behave the next time they are in church.
2007-11-19 14:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have moved to a quieter area of the church.
Who made you God's monitor?
If they were disturbing your worship then you had a right to ask them to show respect for YOU, and the others in the church.
But to pass judgement on them, and telling them how to behave in God's house is God's job.
Not yours!
2007-11-19 14:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well first of al you need to concentrate on your own thing if theyre messing up then thats them dont interfear in others business.....thats kind of mean but you should think of the things you have done that had other people annoyed. you shouldnt have said that.you could of just sat somewhere else... & if its the house of god then why dont you do your own thing....but i think dat was mean from your side...
2007-11-19 14:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by dani-gal 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You did the right thing!
2007-11-19 14:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋