I was in a "relationship" with this guy for about 3 yrs. When I asked him where it was going, he said he doesnt know what he wants, but in the end told me he doesn't want a relationship right now. Basically, he was going to do what he wanted to do...which was date/sleep with other girls. Of course, being naive as I was, I didnt let go because I thought if I stayed around long enough, he would change his mind. We used to have fun, and I know he cared about me. But every once in a while I would get upset when he didnt return my calls or ignore my text messages. Then one day, I just had enough. I told him he was being very selfish, and taking advantage of me...because he knew I wasn't seeing anyone else, and I would always be there for him. I thought I made it clear to him to never call me again, but a month later he called (I didnt pick up), his birthday came and went (I never called to wish him), and just last weekend he called me at 1am. Why is he still trying to contact me?
2007-11-19 06:06:11 · 8 answers · asked by Lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants the non-relationship back. You were conveniently always there when something "better" wasn't around. You're doing the right thing, keep it up! With guys like that, even negative contact gives them the wrong idea. I know it's hard not to call and tell him exactly what you think, though. Good luck!
2007-11-19 06:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by JRo321 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's still calling you because for 3 years you let him have his cake and eat it too. You made it okay for him to do whatever with other people and you would still be there waiting for him.
It will take a while, maybe years, for him to figure out that it has changed. Good for you, though. Hold out for someone who ONLY wants YOU.
2007-11-19 14:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Marion K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's an idiot in love and realizes what he lost. Maybe you guys should talk about it. If he's ready to have a real relationship that only involves the two of you, then it might me worth giving it a shot. BUT do you feel that way about him?
2007-11-19 14:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's insecure. You've been his security blanket for so long, that now that you're gone, he doesn't know what to do other than reach out to you. I'm glad that you realize that he's not the guy for you and that you're not falling for his pleas anymore.
2007-11-19 14:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Pooty Pootwell 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer.. hes calling you cuz you were the old stand by. He must be having a dry spell.
2007-11-19 14:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by pea_nut_26 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Its an effortless attempt to get some A-S-S
2007-11-19 14:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by bubbliebrowne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A classic case of-"You dont realise what you have until its gone"
2007-11-19 14:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
booty call. He knows how you feel about him and figures you're an easy mark.
2007-11-19 14:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋