My boyfriend recently broke up with me after a bitter confrontation. He called me names, spit in my face and wished me dead. He then said he was sorry and wanted me back. I am not sure I can trust him to change his ways. I have since met someone else and he is everything I could ever hope for in a man. He treats me with respect and is a true gentleman. Problem is I still have feelings for my ex-boyfriend but again I do not see him changing his violent temper and addiction to internet porn. I feel terrible because I do not want to hurt either of them.
2007-11-19 05:58:44 · 16 answers · asked by jrseydi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still have feelings for your ex b/c he is so familiar and you were together for awhile, probably.
Move on!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-19 06:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need answers? Do you really... no, the question is.. could you really still have feelings for somebody that treats you bad and has addictions to porn that eventually he'll try and make them real and to top spits on your face? Talk about self respect.... go ahead, take the man back into your life, and 3 years down the road when he leaves you pregnant for a nude dancer don't post no more questions will ya?
2007-11-19 14:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Manuel C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't think that you should ever forgive him for spitting in your face and wishing you dead, that was totally uncalled for and disrespectful. The onlt reason why he is wanting you back is because you have found someone new and he is jealous of the new guy. You are going to still love him, but ask your self one question.... are you still IN love with him? I know you have love for him but are you IN love him him, can you let yourself go back to that? What if the next time he don't spit in your face and he takes it out on you some other way, like hitting you? No person deserves to be treated like crap.
2007-11-19 14:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by mysticbaby420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, let your ex go. You deserve a man who treats you with respect. Let's see, he called you names, spit in your face, wished you dead, he's got a violent temper (obviously) and he's addicted to Internet porn - what exactly DOES he have to offer you.
Trust me sweetie, having escaped (barely) an abusive psycho, you're SO MUCH better without him.
2007-11-19 14:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when you fall in love with someone, it's hard to get over them. If you don't have feelings for this new guy, maybe you shouldn't be with him. But, you definatley should not get back with your ex. Everyone deserves second chances, but you said you just recently broke up with him. That's not enough time for him to change. Don't put yourself back in that situation, because you might not be able to get out of it next time. And you really don't want to have regrets about breaking up with the ideal guy, and especially won't want to hurt him considering all he's done is been good to you.
So basically, if you don't have a lot of feelings for the new guy.., that's fine. But my advice is not to get back with the ex.
2007-11-19 14:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly don't believe your ex isn't going to change, then neither are the problems. Keep moving forward, but take things slowly with the new guy until you've had more of a chance to get past the breakup. If he's really a gentleman, he'll understand and be patient.
2007-11-19 14:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by MM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This my dear sister is a real dilemma..but i must commend you for the great scrutiny of persons before you get to date them.because it takes guts to fall in love with a porn addict and abuser!....he probably has his own pull factors...however,why hurt yourself?...the other guy seems a better option!...you say you dont wanna hurt either guy but he has hurt you already!...so what ur doin here is not hurting him but protecting yourself from more more hurt!..i think sticking to the new guy does your psyche good...however the heart desnt blink!.consider things like if it was the first time yo ex had gone haywire on you!.if it was,he could mean that he is sorry.if it aint,leave before you fall deeper!..goodluck
2007-11-19 14:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by puy2than 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for you... he's not going to change hun. Any man who shows the woman he "loves" that kind of disrespect will do it again. This isn't about love, or feelings, this is about respect, have enough for yourself to move on and give Mr. Nice Guy a real shot. You deserve a man like him... don't let your ex trick you into feeling you don't!
2007-11-19 14:02:42 · answer #8 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be treated like how your ex treated you. You still have feelings for him because there was a point in time where you truly cared for him. You have someone who treats you well don't let it slip away because you can't let go of the past.
2007-11-19 14:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by whtfsnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must truly be an interesting sight, the inside of the female mind. You sound like a textbook example of someone who will spend their life going into and out of emergency rooms because you think you love someone. Learn to love yourself before it's too late.
Wow!
2007-11-19 14:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont live in the past. You know what kind of guy your ex is so let him go. If this new guy is what your looking for build a relationship & future with him. There is no future with the ex.
2007-11-19 14:02:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋