Me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly four years, I'm 21 and she's 22, and she is currently 12 weeks pregnant with our first child. I am still madly in love with her and I'm sure she feels the same about me, but she's from Australia, living here to study, and I could be running out of time to ask her to marry me. We already live together and have discussed a future so I'm more keen to know about how and when to propose, seeing as she's pregnant, will that make a big difference? And how do I do propose WELL?
2007-11-19 05:43:48 · 34 answers · asked by jaggernut 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ask her father for her hand in marriage, if you can.
Otherwise, try the restaurant thing, or stop into a jewelry store while you're both out shopping, and say something really sweet like I adore you, I love you, I want to be with you forever, will you marry me?
Some women like to pick out their own rings (I did & married now for 7 years). Make sure there's an exchange policy if you buy a ring before asking her.
Since she's pregnant, you may want to buy a simple band or simple stone, since her body will change before & after the baby.
You could even put a picture of an engagement ring into a baby blanket & ask her to let you love her & take care of her for as long as you both shall live.
Whatever you do to propose, just remember she'll tell people about it forever - really. And have tissues handy.
2007-11-19 05:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU know if it's time to propose or not. No one else here can answer that for you. And yes, the fact that she's pregnant will make a difference. However, she's only 12 weeks. Don't start worrying about that until she's been pregnant longer. It could possibly interfere with the wedding, depending on when you'd want to get married. Just plan around it, and work with what you can. You both know around the time when the baby will come.
Just take her somewhere romantic to propose. You could probably take her out to eat. You don't have to go all out, though. Even doing it at home so you two can spend time together and just relax would be good as well. Just do whatever is more convenient for you.
2007-11-19 05:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I will resist the urge to tell you it's already a bit late if you are living together and having a child together. I guess I'm just old-fashioned like that.
I think you should ask her ASAP. How about a Christmas engagement? This is practical for several reasons. First of all, now you know what you are getting her for Christmas. Second, if there is family to announce the engagement to, perhaps you will be seeing them over the holidays and can do that at the same time. Could be that at least one or two of them might be old-fashioned like me and will appreciate that you are getting married.
Just find a place that is special to you and tell her the most romantic version of what you said here that you can put in words---how with the baby coming and her time here growing shorter you realize how much you love her and don't want to lose her and all that.
She's probably just been waiting for you to go ahead and go for it. She may want to go ahead and get married now before the baby is born, and you could even wait and have a more formal ceremony later after the baby gets here, the dust settles, and her dream dress would fit again!
2007-11-19 05:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are stupid if they say "The time to propose was three years ago". I think you being together for as long as you have concretes your relationship. My fiance and I were together for four years before he ever proposed.
Just plan a very romantic proposal. And just let her know that its not the fact that you're having a child, but the fact that you love her so much.
Best of luck to you and your new family!!
2007-11-19 08:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Megan Deann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE ANSWER OF REASON!
You proposing should not be a question you ask based on you circumstances. It should be a question you ask her because you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Yes, you are having a child, yes you all live together. Yes the two of you love each other.
Basically, all I am saying is, if you know without a shadow of a doubt that you want to be with her the rest of your life and you are willing to do WHATEVER it takes to make that happen. you should ask. Good luck either way.
2007-11-19 07:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Best 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nows as good a time as any. I would suggest tailoring your proposal to suit her interests in personality, You've been with her for four years so it shouldn't be problem thinking up things that she likes. Simply find a clever way to sneak it into an activity or hobby she does.
I wouldn't recommend the traditional course of action though, (Fancy Restaurant, down on one knee in a crowd of smiling diners. Unless she's a traditionalist this might seem cookie cutter. Again be creative, surprise her.
2007-11-19 05:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bookdust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. Now is a great time! However, I would make sure to mention that your proposal isn't because she's pregnant. Tell her you've wanted to do it but wanted to make sure you had perfect timing and then after you saw her pregnant with ya'lls child you loved her even more and decided that you just couldn't want to wait any longer. Tell her how much you love her and that you really look forward to a life with her, building a happy family and growing together in many ways. Growing up together, growing closer. good luck!
2007-11-19 05:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by J C 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Definately, their really isnt a reason why you shouldnt! The best thing to do is be as romantic as possible, maybe take her out to eat to one of her favorite restaurants or take her out on a picnic (if weather permits) and propose over a glass of Non-alcoholic Champagne lol. Just be creative, start out by telling her about how you feel about her and how you couldnt imagine your life without her and then pop the question. Be prepared for tears lol.
2007-11-19 06:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would if you feel that it is right. just make sure (and this is from experience) that she knows its because you love her and not because shes pregnant. let her know that it was in your plans anyway and that she is the wife and the mother of your children that you have always wanted. good luck. hope she says yes!!! do something creative to propose like put the ring in a dvd box and when you guys are having a movie night beg her to put in the movie so when she opens up the box the ring is in there and then you can walk up to her and do what you have got to do!!!!!
2007-11-19 05:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Erica S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband waited to long to propose to me and I thought that he just did not want to commit so I left and three weeks later he called me and wanted me to come over so we could talk! I did and he proposed to me we have been together for almost 8 yrs and married almost 3yrs and I am so glad that he took that leap because I love him more than anything! If you love her and want to marry her then don't wait do what is in your heart and tell her how you feel and if you want to marry her then get on one knee and tell her all the things you love about her and ask her to marry you!
2007-11-19 05:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy Jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋