I dont know what to do?

Question

Im 16 but i will be 17 in december and i want to move out of my parents house. They are physically and verbally abusive and i dont know if i can face even one more day of living with them. The problem is i dont have any where to go i dont have a job or my license because they wouldnt let me. now im stuck and im starting to think that if i have to live in the streets its worth it. im just not sure if they will let me leave. I live in texas. anyone know the law or have any advice for me?

Answer 1

If you are being physically abused, call an abuse hotline. Here is a national hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Undoubtedly, if DHR finds it's true, they will remove you from the home and probably put you in foster care temporarily...but at your age I think you should legally be able to be emancipated from your parents and be independent. Best wishes!

Answer 2

You could go to a school consular a discuss it with them. Tell them about the abuse and you want a safe place to go, but that will probably involve Social Services,which may be a good thing,especially if there are other kids in the home who may need the help too. I do think you need to get out of there,but do not run away,it will only make you look like the bad guy. Your parents need some serious help!

Answer 3

Don't you have a counselor at school you can talk to? They have the connections to call in Gov agencies! Your parents should not be physically or verbally abusive to you!

Your counselor will be able to talk to you about trying to legally emancipate yourself from your rents and possible options of where you can go.

Don't go to the streets, it's horribly hard and you'll probably fall into prostitution and drugs. It may sound bearable compared to your awful rents but in the end IT'S NOT!

Some towns have nice YWCAs that also have living for battered women. They might be able to refer yo and even counsel you.

I don't know if the gov would put you in a foster family...

No friends to let you live there?
How are your grades? You thinking about college where you can live away from them, get a PT job and live new friends there, even in your summers?

Answer 4

I don't think running away will solve any problem. What you should do is ask if you could speak with them both at the same time. Bite the bullet and do it. Then pour your heart out to them, and also be willing to listen to them, after all you are still a teen and have your own way of thinking. You will not always agree on things and that is normal, nothing wrong with that. But please don't run away, remember your parents really love you in their own way. And please be honest with yourself, so do you. Sort this thing out now, or you will ALL be very sorry later in live. I start to sound like a preacher. Sorry. Good luck and take it one day at a time.

Answer 5

I also live here in Texas and you do have places to go for help. If you are being abused, then go to your local police department and let them know what is going on. They can get you to a safe place and get you the help that you need.

Do NOT stay and take the abuse. In the State of Texas, you are considered an adult at 16 years old. You can live where you want and with who you want. Your parents can not stop you.
Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Go to Social Services. It's probaly illegal for someone under 18 to live alone, but if your parents' behavior is found to justify removing you from the home, you can probably live in a foster or group home until you turn 18. In any case, you need to finish school. Dropping out and living on the streets would amount to throwing your life away.

Answer 7

Are you still in school? Is there anyway that one of your friends parents will allow you to live with them untill your out of school. I would hate to see a young person not finish school because their parents. I would talk to your friends and see if they can talk to their parents. Explain to their parents that you want to stay in school and get a job and get your license, but your parents are so abusive that you just can't stay their anylonger. Tell them that you are willing to pull your own weight and do what they want you to, your desperate and don't know what to do. If none of your friends allow you to come live with them, I think your of age where you can get your own place and your parents have to pay for it. I am not sure that is how it is in NY, not to sure about Texas. If worst comes to worse I have a family member that I can talk to and find out some information about the laws for you.
Being 16 going on 17 really isn't that hard to be on your own. You just have to be more responsiable. I did it. My parents kicked me out in january 2 days before my 16th b-day. I have been on my own no for 15 years. I didn't have a job or place to live or anyone to help me, and I was still going to school. It was hard in the begining but God helped me out alot. He gave me the strength to move forward. I graduated and then got a job, and I have been working ever since. Your going to have though times I will tell you that. There was a time that I only had one pack of saltine crackers. I would eat 5 or 6 a day and that was it untill I got paid. It gets hard believe me and your going to want to give up, but you know inside that you can't. I wish you all the luck in the world and God Bless you. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

well first i would get a job. id call the autorities thing and i would try so hard to get out of the if you have any friends you could live with for now you should go with them...your wasting your life if you dont leave from there. (im a girl this is my dads yahoo thing)

Answer 9

I think you need to find a counsellor - pastor, social worker, etc, im sure they'll be able to help you. If not to get out of your parents house, maybe to get a job or something so you'll be able to help yourself.
I really hope it works out.

Answer 10

If your parents are abusive, you need to call the authorities. Contact child protection services.