My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up with for 4 months. She broke up with me. In the last 2-3 months she calls me like every 2-3 weeks and tells me that she misses me and things about our relationship. She has been seeing someone else and she has told me more than once that she doesnt like him that much and that they dont have the same connection that we have. About a month ago I stopped taking her calls and havent answered her texts. She saw me a week ago with another girl and she called me at work 2 days later and told me several things about how she misses me and how special I am and then she started crying and told me she wanted to see me, and that she is thinking of leaving the guy she is with, etc. She never acts on her statements so I told her that I am moving on and that I think it would be best for her not to call me EVER again. When I said that she hung up on me(immature). I think I did the right thing, but I DO love her very much. What is she doing this for?What to do?
2007-11-19 05:18:38 · 12 answers · asked by zarro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont feel like I'm pushing her away because she knows that since we broke up I wanted her back, but now since she hasnt come back I have to move on. Should I feel like I did anything wrong by telling her NOT to call me?
2007-11-19 05:33:40 · update #1
She wants to keep stringing you along. People like this always need someone else to make them feel better. She wants to keep her hooks in you so you won't move on. You did the right thing. Don't look back.
2007-11-19 05:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by Miss. A. Laneous 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You say girls are confusing? How about you? You say you still love her, and yet you tell her you are moving on. It is obvious this girl still has feelings for you and she feels she made a mistake by breaking up with you. Most people have a hard time admitting they were wrong so she has been giving you vague messages and you have refused to act on them. I do not know the history of your relationship with her, but if the break up was due to conflict and could have been resolved, then if you really love her, why are you pushing her even further away. Just know, what is making you strong now is your pride and the fact that she has been calling you. You might one day get what you asked for and that is for her to leave you alone and move on. You gotta ask yourself, is this what you really want? Now-a-days people seem to throw away love as if it were some kind of power game. It sounds as if you and her just need to have better ways of resolving conflict without having to break up and go out with other people which can only make the situation worst. Love is not wanting to hurt the person you love. Otherwise it is only self centred and shallow without any real meaning.
2007-11-19 13:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should move on with your life. If she does love you, why she doesn't leave another guy and come back to you. She uses you as her security. In case thing doesn't work out with another guy, she wants to be sured that she still have you. You did the right thing and be strong. There are a lot of nice girls out there waiting for you. She dump you and moved with another guy, how will you expect that she won't find another one and leave you again. She has mental issue and can't make up her mind what to do with her life. Your relationship and her won't be stable and you will get hurt again. One day you will find the right girl and forget about her. Good luck. There are millions reason to convince you that she doesn't love you. Girls always play on guys the way she wants, just watch out.
2007-11-19 13:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing by moving on.
I have very little respect for those people who break up with you, then decide it was a bad move. Unless there is an out-of-the-ordinary reason why you broke up with me, there is little chance I will take you back - it always seems as though there is a period of regret soon after the break up, but ifyou get back together, what makes her think that it will be any better for her than it was?
I would leave things as they are - you are moving on which is a good thing. She will survive.
2007-11-19 13:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by IJToomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is playing you! If so why didn't she get rid of the other guy long before she started calling you. Funny isn't it? I wouldn't trust her if I were you. She just wants to make you feel guilty and go back to her coz most probably she got jealous when she saw you with the other girl! Ignore her. You did the right thing.
2007-11-19 13:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its hard to let go of someone you've been with so long. Maybe her feelings for you still linger. You did do the right thing. Make sure she knows you want to move on. Lingering in the past gets you nowhere, just keep the good memories and never regret. ^_^
2007-11-19 13:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by A chikk. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever gone fishing around in the trash for a sandwich you threw away the day before, because you thought it would be fresher? No?? There's your answer...leave it where you left it and move on. Her problems are just that: HERS! You are no longer responsible for her decisions or the unhappiness that may arise from them. Life goes on...
2007-11-19 13:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. Let her go. Time will help her forget and you too. Ignoring as much as you can from her is the best thing to do.
Good job finding another relationship. I wish you all the best!
2007-11-19 13:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by cpep27 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you tell her that if you loved her? Some times people get on a different frequency and they try to communicate but it gets all screwed up some how. You seem to be communicating enough to missunderstand but not enough to resolve issues. Figure out what you want and focus on that, if you love her then talk to her. Grampa B
2007-11-19 13:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did do the right thing. You may love her which is natural, but you are no longer in love with her. She may not get that. You have moved on.
2007-11-19 13:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋