Do you believe in second chances with an ex?

Question

I got a handwritten letter from my ex 3 months post break up. She basically said she didnt like how things ended and I did mean a lot to her and she does care. She said I was one of the most important people in her life because I made her realize she needed to change. (No she did not cheat) I decided any girl who cared that much was worth giving a friendship a try. I can tell a difference in her. Its been 8 months since the break up and our friendship is very strong. Whats different from her then my first ex is my first ex cheated then slept with everyone after our break up yet wanted me without changing. Im developing feelings again for my ex who changed should I give it more time still?

Answer 1

I used to, live and learn

Answer 2

The real question is what caused the break-up the first time, and what reason do you have to believe it won't happen again?

I am a firm believer that everyone deserves a second chance. Unless your ex did (or has since done) something that hurt you terribly, I say give her another chance. If it doesn't work out the 2nd time around, end it and never look back.

Do what you feel is best for you - it's YOUR life and you're only going to live it once.

No matter what happens - good luck. :)

Answer 3

I don't see that it would hurt to give it more time if it makes you more comfortable. What is the rush? But since you have already given 8 months and all is still good (change is still there) then why not go forward? We are human and we will make mistakes. But if someone recognizes it and then changes and tries to do the right thing then why not give them a second chance. That to me seems more real. But in the end, you have to do what you feel is right. You are in the situation. Trust yourself. Deep down, you know what you should do. I believe that truly.

Answer 4

Of course give the girl another chance. Every relationship needs time to grow. Although sometimes it is hard for some people, when they have that break or whatever you want to call it but that is good that you remained good friends. just take it slow with her. Realize and develope the feelings that you have between you and her and make something out of it. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Its good you are keeping an open mind about this. It depends on what you feel needed to change and on what broke ya'll up in the first place. It is your heart on the line in the end. Maybe you have both matured. Give it a try. Don't expect to fail. If you do give it another shot, don't pick the situation to pieces. Go with it and remember no one is perfect including ourselves. If it feels right, let it happen. Don't force it. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Oh babes...

This is so hard...I absolutely adored my ex-husband and we had 12 wonderful years together, but there were just certain aspects of our characters that just couldn't change without changing the people that we were.

I loved him for the man he was and had the courage to walk away from him rather than destroy this.

In my more romantic moments I fondly imagine that we'd be back together some day, more soberly though I already know how it ends and I'm not sure I could do that again.

You don't strike me as a fool, I'm sure you'll make the decision that's right for yourself.

Answer 7

it's generally after losing some dear people we realize how much we were mistaken or how much that person counted for u,,after the separation a natural person analyses what happened exactly n starts to arrange the positive n negative side of things,,n she maybe recognised the importance of u afetr breaking up,,n believe me it happens a lot,though her mistakes,,she tried maybe hopelessly to revenge ,,,,u never know people change especially if she was really honest n there is only u who can know that;;a second chance will cost u nothing,,u just need to be more carefull,,n more logical,,if she deserves to be again with,,this is a question of time,,so give time the occasion to show the proof of her honesty.good luck.

Answer 8

Honestly.. I think that you should do whatever your hear tells you to do!!! If you want to get back with her.. then DO SO!!! You don't want to live your life asking yourself "what if" so if you feel that your friendship with her is growing back to a relationship.. then take your chances!!! What's the worse that could happen??? A break up??? Well you already went through that and you survived it right??? And well what's the best that could happen??? You and her could be the happiest couple!!! So yes... I say give it another try!!!

Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Oh yeah I believe...my sister in law and brother in law dated 5 years and then she realized she didnt feel like she had that much freedom and wanted to go places and do stuff so they broke up for about a year and the next year they got married and have been married for 10 years I think...but a really long time.

Answer 10

my ex of almost 3 months (we were together 2 years) is now starting to see his other ex (who cheated on him) on occasion. we have a strong friendship and i believe in second chances i really do. if he wrote me a letter like that and said all that, id definatley consider trying it, especially if you have a good friendship. a lot of people say "people are your ex for a reason, be done with it" but i definatley believe in trying, if you dont try youll never know. and as for your other ex, definatley be done with that. but i would give your more recent ex another try. lol sorry if that was confusing, good luck!

Answer 11

I would say to give her a chance but then sit and talk about why you broke up. It could be that she was cheated on and has a trust problem just like you do and perhaps by talking things over you can make it work this time. Good Luck to you.