It really sounds like my bf has the symptoms of ptsd. He was abused by his dad, almost got raped by him, then his dad was arrested, him and his mom lived on the streets for a year, his cat caught on fire and watched it burn, he seen his best friend get killed by a buss right infront of him, all his gf's verbally abused him accept me, etc.....he tells me he feels emotionally muted, cant show his feelings, even though he makes it feel like he really shows his love for me. Yet, he recently told me he wasnt sure if i wanted to be with him when i took him back(together 8 months, he dumped me, saying he was confused, didnt know what he wanted being too busy with his music)i told him i really do want to be with him and when he told me this : just keep in mind that my music comes before everything'' how can he say that? he also says he feels worthless all the time and never ever let go of his past. Im the only gf whos treated him good, and its complicated to know how hes feeling... plz help
2007-11-19 04:54:16 · 10 answers · asked by Canadian19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
certainly possible, it sounds like he should speak with a professional
2007-11-19 04:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a complicated guy. Hey I wouldn't blame the guy for feeling the way he does. Honestly if you really want to help this guy and be with him for a long time, you always have to be there. No matter what he might say just know that he doens' t mean it. He was probably confused for a time because he has never had that type of relationship that everything is ok. He didn't know how to act in that environment and that was the only thing that was brought to his attention. For the whole music thing, it is just like saying familys first. Try not to take it to personal... realize that this is probable one of his escapes from always bringing himself down. Don't worry the more that you are committed and there for him.. he will realize that he finally has a good thing on his hands and won't let that go.
2007-11-19 05:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is very disturbed.He needs to see a health counselor! It's ok to be sympathetic and encouraging towards such a guy but I don't think a love relationship can ever evolve after a while. He would always be unsure of your love it seems. You seem to give this impression (I might be wrong) that you do not really love him in a ROMANTIC SENSE but rather as one who has been mistreated and that what's making you feel towards him. It is Sympathy and NOT love.
I would suggest you let him be and just go on with your life. You deserve better in life and a man who holds you in a higher esteem than his other interests. Why would you want to be with a guy who dumped you in the first place. That shows he's really never going to be committed to you or anyone! He needs help and you are certainly not the one who can make any difference by wasting your energy. You would be drained after a while for sure!
2007-11-19 05:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a annoying subject yet you may see it 2 way besides the actuality that folk have issues psychological or not it as much as the guy to choose the help or exchange will by no potential take place secondly if he isn't prepared to attempt to allow you be with him then you do not choose that type of rigidity on your guy or woman existence. Be his chum and ask him if he needs exchange if he says confident then it quite is a various tale if he doesnt opt to alter there is not something you're able to do
2016-10-02 02:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn dats real fuckd up but if u luv da guy u gotta talk 2 him an make him understand! An mayb he needs some help! Everyone needs a light so be his light an save him from his darkness!
2007-11-19 05:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kenpochi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, he could be a good guy but he's emotionally scarred. If you have the patience to stick it out with him then good for you, but don't try and fix him yourself. His past sounds very disturbing and could take years of therapy to get over.
2007-11-19 05:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AHe should get counseling, and I think it is very sweet of you to stick by him while he is going through so much.
2007-11-19 05:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by Liz67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he's been through, and you never mention a thing about counseling?
2007-11-19 04:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Barry auh2o 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your playing with fire little girl and your going to get hurt.
Back away.
2007-11-19 05:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by we_are_legion99 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
too much drama for me.
2007-11-19 04:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋