Generally I hate boyfriends and relationships because they're too restricting on my free spirit. I hate limiting myself. But I'm noticing more and more how guys seem drawn to want to hook up with the "girls with boyfriends." It almost makes the girl look more "wanted" i.e. attractive, or perhaps less likely to blab about her fling w/ him in case he has a girlfriend himself.
I'm thinking of finding a "cover boyfriend"...it'd work the same way as a "cover business" that drug dealers operate simply to cover up the huge cash flow generated from illegal sales. I'd pass him off as a boyfriend, but be cheating on him haha. I'd have someone to show my family, since I'm 25 and hitting the "you-should-be-married" age. I'd draw in the guys that always go for the girls w/ boyfriends. I'd have someone to use in case I'm too lazy to go out. Haha isn't this a great idea?
I'd look for the cheating scumbag type to be my cover bf. That way, I won't feel bad cheating on him b/c I'd know he...
2007-11-19 04:52:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...he is probably doing the cheating to me. So I wouldn't feel any guilt or remorse. It'd be my way of saying "F U" to all the ****** guys in the world...I can play their games too! Hahaha.
Good idea or bad idea? I think I've struck gold with this idea haha. And I have the "perfect" guy in mind too...divorced(or not), 2 kids he never sees, tattoos, fairly big d!ck hahahaha I'm gonna use him like he's never been used before.
2007-11-19 04:53:29 · update #1
I'm not desperate...I meet hot guys all the time. The "cover boyfriend" thing is more of a hypothetical inside joke that a friend and I composed yesterday afternoon. All I am doing, is the same thing that the typical guy would do. And yes, I DO think like a dude and yes it would be the ideal relationship for a dude to get into.
I'm not talking about using a "nice guy" as my cover boyfriend here...I'm talking about purposely targetting a scumbag cheater, so that I don't have any guilt. I would feel BAD cheating on a "nice guy," but I would not feel bad cheating on a cheater haha. If anything, I would feel justification for all the women that have gotten cheated on before haha.
2007-11-19 04:59:28 · update #2
Lulu -- Nah actually it's the guys I hang out with that say "blah blah blah"...or at least that's all I hear when they talk, because I'm really not interested in what they have to say, only their bodies and what fun I can have with them haha. It's funny you bring up that analogy though, since that's the very analogy I always use to describe how little I care about the guys that I use every now and then. :)
2007-11-19 05:01:33 · update #3
To Innocent: Don't worry, I won't fall for the guy. I'm not like that. I have the mindset of a guy and I don't get attached, especially if it's a cheating scumbag guy. I tend to only look at guys for 2 things -- a joystick and a heartbeat hahaha.
2007-11-19 05:03:35 · update #4
I don't want a "good match" at this point in my life...I don't like dating and I am happier with my friends. The whole "cover boyfriend" is more of a joke than anything. I have no problem finding guys(not since the plastic surgery!), so that's not the issue. The "issue at hand" is just a joke I made up in spite of all the cheater losers that are mean to people such as my girl friends.
2007-11-19 05:05:12 · update #5
LOL come on guys, doesn't anyone here have a sense of humor? :) The whole thing was more of a joke than anything...as much of a joke as when my guy friend had the "bright idea" to anchor-and-tow Australia closer to the U.S. so that he could live in Australia but still be nearby his family and friends. (rolls eyes)
You guys should grab a drink or two after work, and THEN re-read this question...maybe then you guys will find the satirical humor in this.
But in all seriousness -- it is lame how guys will cheat on girls and then expect girls to be loyal to them. That's the point I'm trying to make here.
2007-11-19 05:17:27 · update #6
Well if you get the type that you're talking about, [a cheating scum-bag], then I say why not? At least you found some kind of use for them right? But if you ever do find a GREAT guy don't be afraid or angry to have some one to share yourself with. Besides if he is the guy for you then you won't feel restricted at all.... ;-D
2007-11-19 05:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by armh♥u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are such a free spirit, then don't have a boyfriend. You would then be a walking irony if you had one. Secondly, if you want to attract guys, then really, using a cover up bf does the following: 1.) it encourages more guys to be attracted to girls with boyfriends (which makes the world a lot less of a pleasing place to live in, if you do care about the world since you wanna teach the bad guys a lesson, so i should assume that you do care) 2.) you are putting yourself down, coz if you would look at it, some girls look better without makeup (and many guys think so) and these girls are so concerned about being wanted so as to put makeup on their faces which ruins their natural beauty. My point is that you would only get a cover up bf if you are insecure of yourself, or you are a manifestation of "lust incarnate". So are you either? I hope not. 3.) you are obviously pressured by your culture to have a boyfriend (which i hope you would know better than to give in to the pressure) OR this is just a cover up or a spicy addition for your real intention of having a cover bf. 4.) hey, i believe no "scumbag" deserves to have his life worse by another person, and presupposing that that guy will cheat on you is a rather a hasty and unwarranted act. 5.) delving into your psychology, i have a guess.. Based on what you said about "That way, I won't feel bad cheating on him b/c I'd know..." means that you would feel bad had you cheated on a non-cheating "scumbag", which leads me to conclude that you are actually fully aware that the nature of what you are doing is not really what I would like to call appropriate, in any case. Well you get my point. 6.) Lastly, this is really not going to avenge all the girls that the ****** guys have wronged.. And playing their game makes them better at it.. So you would actually be dooming countless girls with this crusade..
2007-11-19 13:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by nj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ii honeslty think that lying is just bad... if u want my opinion, i think u should find a guy as free spirited as u... a guy who is into open/polygamy relationships.. some1 who wouldn't mind having sex with other people and wouldn't mind u having sex with others as well... if u have 2 set certain rules.. then do so, like probably u wouldn't want him 2 have sex with a friend of urs, or he wouldn't want u 2 have sex with a friend of his... then i d say 2 stick with the rules... if tehre are no rules... then u know what u got 2 do... and that way u can show him off to ur family and friends, and pass up like a serious couple... and that way u ll have the guys hitting on u... lol
just don't lie i guess..... u know as much of a cheater he might be... there are people who acutally get to fall in love.. what if he falls in love with u.. and won't cheat onu?? gotta think about that... u would surely feel bad on a ex cheater... just try 2 find some1 who is into that idea... lots of people love that... specially gays/bisexual guys... str8 are too... selfish... lol but since u r not a guy and ur into guys... then i d say ... find a hot bisexual guy u r into... and talk to him aboout it... it might work.. u never know.
2007-11-19 13:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are 25, and you are still playing highschool games! Do not conform, be yourself! Who would want those "type" of guys that would cheat on another man's girlfriend. Use your brain and stop listening to your hormones! Take it from the Great Katherine Hepburn "If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married." forget boyfriends and get a life instead. Go shopping, go to school, go out dancing, join a club but don't look anymore and you would be suprised what will find YOU! Good luck!
2007-11-19 13:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not just get a real boyfriend and cut out the manipulation. You don't sound like a "free spirit" to me.
2007-11-19 13:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half and half
it's a good plan but it will back fire on you like hell!
Would you really want to do something like that to someone else? What if you really start to fall for the person and it's getting really serious?
2007-11-19 13:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by innocent~1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of playing games why not just be honest about your intentions I can't imagine that guys would have a problem being used for "what fun you can have with them"... :)
2007-11-19 13:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good or bad things will come to those who wait or play the wrong game
2007-11-19 13:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by ajs53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your "free spirit" sounds more like controlling and manipulation if you ask me.
2007-11-19 12:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by nonameblonde 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're awesome!! From male perspective, this sounds like the perfect relationship!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-19 12:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by resurrected 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋