im with a guy who cheated for 2 weeks with this other girl that he doesnt love as much as me. he really wants to marry me and loves me a lot, thats why i think it could work. so i took him back and gave him another chance because i think his feelings are genuine. however, i heard from one person that he asked a lot of other girls to marry him and that he cheats all the time. i like him alot, and i think we really have something going on between us. thats why this scares me. i feel that im just another girl he fell for and asked to marry and claimed to love.. however, he is dead serious about getting married, he says im really the right one for him, his soulmate, etc., he dumped his girlfriend on the phone 3 way to be with me, and claims that i can trust him from now on. i dont know what to think. b/c of the rumors i remain skeptical of his sincerity but on the other hand, i get the genuine sense he changed for me... what do u think? could it work? can cheaters change their ways?
2007-11-19 04:46:25 · 11 answers · asked by Vern 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think if he really loved you he wouldn't cheat on you. real love involves a lot of trust and loyalty. i also think you should be in no rush to get married, and should enjoy things that 18 year olds do. focus on other things, such as school and your friends and just enjoy life. i hope this helps you.
2007-11-19 04:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters can change, but it doesn't sound like your boyfriend has the maturity to even think about marriage, let alone discuss it seriously with you. Would you have wanted to be on the receiving end of that breakup call he made, or to know that the new girl was listening in? Don't assume he's guilty until proven innocent, but don't confuse hopes and dreams with reality, either.
2007-11-19 04:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey once a cheater always a cheater. Never marry someone like that. He will always try to win by telling you things you he knows you want to hear weather they are true or not. Do you really want to marry someone like that. You are young and trust me there are many good ones out there.
2007-11-19 04:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vern,
There really is no telling..
Cause i'm not you, and I don't know him.
My boyfriend keeps mentioning his ex. He talks about her more then us, and it's starting to scare me a bit. So I sort of know how you feel.
But I wouldn't do anything quite as drastic as leaving him yet. Just talk it over with him.
I think cheaters really can change, but only if it's real. And there's where you hit the problem. You don't know if it's real. If you think it is, believe with all your heart, and don't hold back. Holding back only disintegrates your relationship with him. Don't hold back, step out and love him.
2007-11-19 04:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should let you see them...I mean if he has nothing to hide. I understand that he wants you to trust him and let him text other girls. However, it's really wrong especially if you have been dating him this long. Tell him it's not your fault that you to are fighting so much try to sit down and talk to him if it doesn't work ignore him for awhile. Personally it sounds like you can do a whole lot better.
2016-05-24 05:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, once a cheater always a cheater!! if i caught my boyfriend cheating on me in anyway he would be straight out the door, go find some one who respects u as much as u do them girl your too young an he will hurt u, he will. go live your life!!
2007-11-19 05:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by emily r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's surprising the number of people who ask for advice with this age old problem, when they probably already know the answer. Find another guy....Pronto
2007-11-19 04:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by John 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on her with you he will do it to you. And why were you on 3 way with him when he broke up with her. That is rude. I hope you do stay with him and he does hurt you. What you have done to this other girl is rude, mean and there is no excuse for your behavior.
2007-11-19 04:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for 99.9% of men, once a cheater, always a cheater. i will stand by this phrase.
if you want to be cheated on, be my guest. but i must ask you, WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE WITH THIS KIND OF GUY, ANYWAY???? sheesh... come on.
2007-11-19 05:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by beatleschik1659 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with the word "teen" in their age should not get married, but there dont seem to be anything stopping you from being together. :)
2007-11-19 04:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋