My husband is scheduled to go overseas, and we are having a new baby. The main problem is I am due right around the same time he is going over. I was wondering if there is a way out of him going, at least for a few months? He is afraid to ask his NCO because he just got to this unit a month ago, and don't want to seem like a bad solider.
2007-11-19 03:58:47 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda W 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The problem is, our family is 8 hrs away, and we are new to the area, so we don't have any friends yet. He is a cook and 2nd in command in the kitchen, so he is not really needed.
2007-11-19 04:08:04 · update #1
Ask! I don't think he's going to be delayed but ...you don't know for sure, and also, his NCO needs to know what's going on. The AF deployment system is very different than the Army which is different from the Navy, sometimes we have wiggle room and sometimes we don't. Hard to say if you do or not. If his NCO is worth his salt, he/she will not look down on your husband.
2007-11-19 13:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think he's getting out of that. Your probably in a military hospital--so I know that they don't induce unless there is a health concern or you are 2 weeks overdue.
One of my good friends was pregnant when our husbands deployed. He couldn't be there for the birth. We called him on the phone from the hospital room so that he could at least hear what was going on. She had myself, another deployed soldiers wife, and our husbands first seargent (female, and a great friend to us ladies) in the room with her.
I would suggest going to your family support group and meeting some of the other spouses. that's how we met and we all became really close while our husbands were gone. If you don't find someone you trust--then I would suggest going home to your family, or having a family member come to stay with you for a little while. I would just prepare myself for having the baby without my husband and come up with a plan of what I would do when he leaves--be it stay on base or go home.
Good luck.
2007-11-19 13:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by yolieszabo 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you ask your doctor he may induce you early, say a week or two if the baby looks good. Other wise you do have family near it just a matter of meeting them. When your spouse is in the military so are you and the other spouses become your family and support system. I suggest you get out and start meeting people while your husband is home. Good luck
2007-11-19 15:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by alokame 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Family being only 8 hours away would be awesome to me! If he can't stay then I would suggest going home. We were in the same boat with our 2nd child. My dad flew out and help drive me and the kids back to my parents house (2,000 miles away.)
Ask around at your base, there are groups for wives and there will be others in your situation. It helps to see you're not the only one.
2007-11-19 13:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Just me 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've given birth while my husband was deployed. Generally they won't let your husband stay behind or come back unless his job isn't mission essential. It doesn't hurt anything to ask, just be prepared for a no. Honestly, if you have close friends or family in the area, its best to be prepared to deliver without your husband.
2007-11-19 12:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Denise S 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
no. a normal pregnancy and birth is NOT grounds to delay a deployment at all.
Friends of ours; His wife went into labor and literally he drove her to the hospital and dropped her off and then he went directly to the pier and got underway. it was a week before they had email access and he found out if it was a boy or a girl. we were OCONUS, so having family nearby wasn't an option for her either.
2007-11-19 13:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You might want to see if the doctor will induce you. Not likely your husband will get to stay. It never hurts to ask, they could try to schedule him to be the last to go.
2007-11-19 12:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Send him pictures. There is no getting out.
2007-11-19 12:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋