ok she dumped me 5 months ago and the other day she said she wanted to figure out if she wanted to be with her current b/f or me so she called me and we were talking and she said that she wanted to start her life ( she's 18 and im 19) so i asked what she meant by this and she said she wanted to be engaged b4 her b-day ( this June) and married when she's done school ( she has 3 years to go) so I agreed that I could do those things for her then we got of the phone and I thought about it for a bit and realized that I would also like to do those things but not on a schedule like her...so I called her back and said that I couldn’t give her what she wanted and she also seemed to be pushing me away by bringing stupid stuff I did from the last relationship. like oh u weren't with me all the time at my house u chilled a lot with my bro ( witch I now know is a mistake) so then I tried talking 2 her yesterday, cuz I’m still great friends of the family and well( my friend was with me, who is a chick- and she said to me (the ex) oh i thought u were just friends acting all jealous, I thought and I asked her if ur with ur b/f y does it bother u so much and she said cuz she's ugly and has shaggy hair and some other negative things about her ( and she's not ugly she’s cute) and I asked her well by what is seemed the other day u were just pushing me away and it felt like u didn’t even want to be with me u wanted him...and she said that she wanted me and that I made it pretty clear that I wanted nothing to do with her but I told her that wasn’t it that I wanted to be with her but I didn’t like the fact that she wanted everything planned out and scheduled...cuz I feel like if I propose to her that I should do it on my terms and that it should be a surprise, and now she's saying that its not that big a deal if she got engaged b4 her b-day and stuff and well she was kind of ignoring me so I said glad to c u matured up and left her room...when she was leaving she was acting all nice, sayin bye smiling and well saying bye like 3 times….should I tell her this? Thanks
2007-11-19 03:52:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stick to your guns in this situation. It sounds to me that she know what she wants and when she wants it, but this leaves out the element of surprise and fate.
Being engaged and married is a HUGE deal - and it's not one of life's events that can be placed on a schedule.
It does sound like she still likes you, but at the same time, it doesn't give her the right to boss you around or manipulate you (by acting jealous one minute and ignoring you the next).
Just be honest with her and let her know how you feel.
Good luck!
2007-11-19 04:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is way to immature to be in any kind of relationship. If she is talking about getting engaged to you while she has a boyfriend. She isn't worth your time. Sounds like she is just playing games.
2007-11-19 04:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just literally sit down and talk with her about how you feel and what you think has happened the past few days. and ask her what she took of all the situtation. communication is a key ingredient in a relationship, so use it wisely.
2007-11-19 04:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you comprehend he cheated on you, and you have already prevalent it and tried to artwork on your marriage yet some thing continues to be incorrect. It takes an prolonged time to recover from being betrayed. he will probable in no way inform you the numerous factors or each and all of the reality approximately what he did at the back of your decrease back. in case you desire to stay with him, you will would desire to placed it at the back of you and flow on, if not, it is going to consume you alive on a daily basis. you will would desire to attempt and overlook it in case you desire to flow on with your life with him. in case you could not stay with the deception, then commence determining once you desire to go away, because of the fact there isn't lots of a destiny.
2016-10-02 00:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to being a cool teenager right now dear you have too much on your plate right now.
2007-11-19 04:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by crissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey confused soul!...Dump her!..don't even try to analyse what she said or has done....run like mad!
2007-11-19 04:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jay D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds way too immature you cannot plan that crap I am sure it just happens.......
2007-11-19 04:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel thats what i would do and that should help hope i helped
2007-11-19 03:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋