how r u meant to cope when u find out some1 has cancer???

Answer 1

The first thing you need to realize is that the cancer is not about you and how well you can or cannot cope with it. That's the first step. Yes, you can be sympathetic . . but that is not what the patient needs from you. I have no idea how close you are to the person but what a cancer patient needs is for you to treat them the same way you have always treated them. They don't need anything special . . sometimes they don't even need your time. They do need your prayers and good wishes and love and support and friendship. All things that you should be giving to them whether they are sick with cancer or not. So, let the doctors do their job . . and you just be available . . be around . . be supportive. That's all you need to do.

I will tell you that when my son was first diagnosed with cancer . .we would get visitors at the hospital who broke down in tears . . placing us in the odd position of actually comforting other people because our son had cancer. I know people are sorry . . I get that . . but it was more of a burden to need to help others cope all the time. Sorry . . if you cannot cope with it . . please do not burden the cancer patient with your sorrow. They do not need to feel guilty because they have caused you grief. Be supportive and hide your sorrow and fear away.

Answer 2

When someone has cancer, the best thing to do is not let yourself break down, because then they will feel like they cannot rely on you for emotional support and sometimes may even feel guilty for telling you and worrying you. You should be there for them and make you they know that. For you to personally cope, you should just try and get support for yourself off a third party, some friends that are not directly linked to this person with cancer. Distractions from the topic will also allow your emotional state to distress, so don't obsess on the topic at hand.

Answer 3

First, you have to let all your emotions out. Preferably not in the presence of the cancer patient. Once you've cried, got angry, and accepted it. Talk to them as normally as you would have before. It will be hard the first time you speak to them or see them, but a few tears won't hurt anyone. The one thing they do not want is that every conversation around them has to do with "Cancer". Ask them if there is anything you can do, and mean it. Hold there hand when they get sick, transport them to and from the numerous doctors appts., or anything they ask. A lot of people ask in the beginning, but in the end cannot handle the situation. Be strong, listen to them, and pray. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Having been on both sides of this, be willing to listen and hear emotional feelings while someone is sorting out how they feel about all of this. Don't avoid them. Call, write, ask if you can visit. If they don't feel well, keep your visits short. Find someone you can talk to about your feelings. Don't expect the one with cancer to be your support. They have a lot to deal with already. Tears are okay though.

Answer 5

Be fearless and follow the doctor's advice. Pray and be supportive. You need to be positive and active. There is a lot of support out there, but listen to the doctor and tell them that you want to live and beat cancer. I run and raise money for cancer patients, victims and survivors. I will run to increase your/your family/friends courage and health.
Peace.

Answer 6

Contact your local branch of the American Cancer Society - they offer many resources, support groups, etc. If you don't have a group close by, ask someone at your local hospital for a referral - there are many agencies out there to help. I hope for the best for your friend/relative who has been diagnosed, and for you, too. He/she will need friends like you, friends who care.

Answer 7

Well you shouldn't be all jolly about it, but you shouldn't scream and yell and hurt someone. cancer is very serious but don't worry all of the people i knew(alot) who have had cancer all survived because doctors are discovering new ways to keep people safe.

Answer 8

you aren't! it's a very hard illness to "cope" with, and will take a long time for you to get you head around it.
I hope evertthing works out ok. Someone in my family has just been diagnosed, so I know how you feel!

Take care of yourself, and just be there for that person.

Answer 9

No they don't seem to be meant to be there. It enables you to not flow on with your life and quicker or later you will the two harm somebody else or the soreness would be there on your coronary heart continuously in case you gain this. wish this permits and robust success. have faith me all people has had an analogous element throughout the time of his/her life yet we would desire to constantly flow on.

Answer 10

You dont cope!!! Cancer is something that is never accepted!! It is a terrible terrible disease.i hope nobody you know has it