What would you do? run away, stay...does it matter? On your honey moon you notice that you didnt as you guys say..."pop that cherry" will you ask her and care? If she admits rape what would you say/do?
2007-11-19 02:43:32 · 15 answers · asked by Blair Waldorf 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rape is a crime and the victim did nothing wrong. Rape is not about sex either. It's about power over someone else. If a girl (who happened to be raped) wanted to save herself until marriage, I'd consider her a virgin. In no way would I blame her for being raped. That was something she had no control over. And if I knew a girl had been raped and wanted to pursue a relationship with her, I'd use extra care as I would know she had been violated in the most personal way.
2007-11-19 02:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never blame a woman for being raped. That is why it is called rape. I would never leave a lady because she had that tragic experience. Bad things happen all the time. If on the honeymoon and I realized that I didn't "POP" her cherry I would definitely ask. If she claims rape, I cannot fault her and I would be understanding of the fact.
I cannot imagine what women go through with such a situation. So I will not be the one to leave because of something she had no control over.
2007-11-19 02:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jurrassikk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG ofcourse honey any sane man would like the poor girl and even more coz she needs support or an ear to tell her story to..after all spouse is the closest..incase she doesnt wanna discuss the husband should leav ethe topic..its not her fault!!!! Poor girl :( But I think once marriage has been decided and she trusts the guys she might even ..if she likes speal bout it to get this outta the way..and make sure it doesnt matter to the guy.
2007-11-19 04:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think that whether or not a person was raped shouldn't factor into one's decision as to whether or not they want to be with that person. That's someone's personal business and if that's something they want to share, then I'm willing to listen. Otherwise, unless it's something that's affecting my relationship, then there's no reason for that person to bring it up unless they wanted to share that with me.
I also think that any person would be surprised if someone came out and admitted they were raped. I think it's such a personal and intimate detail of their life that whether or not they choose to disclose that is really up to them. And if it did come out, I'd make sure that my significatn other was physically, mentally and emotionally okay to be with me and move forward. If not, then I'd most likely take a time out to help her get the help she needs.
I'm a woman obviously but if I were that woman that was raped, that's what I would want my spouse to do.....
2007-11-19 02:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Momto2inFL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really cared it would not matter to him and he would understand. Got to be honest and maybe let him know before the honey moon. If the love is true than it will work out.
2007-11-19 02:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by ncmudslinger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister and just about every close female friend I ever had was raped, I don't care if the experience turned them purple, I wouldn't think the silghtest bit less of them, and anyone who would doesn't deserve the time of day. If she admitted it, I would ask her if she wanted to talk about it, if yes, ask questions, if no, leave it be.
2007-11-19 02:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mic K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly. It is quite clear that she did not consent to what happened to her. If she has gone on to trust me in light of what she has been through, then we have a solid relationship.
I do not know if I could ever trust men (as a woman) after something like that. I would give her a great deal of credit and respect for overcoming something horrible like that.
2007-11-19 02:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the situation would make some dudes more compasionate to you or in other words gentle...i think he would love you the same tell him how you feel what happened and im sure he will understand and love you just as he always did..maybe even more
2007-11-19 02:48:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you would stay without any question. After all she is the victim it was not her fault. Try to be gentle and understanding. You can't undo what has happened
2007-11-19 02:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by brenguns1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the rape happened before I knew her, it is a non-factor. if it happened while we were together, I would support her. The rape should have nothing to do if you love someone or not.
2007-11-19 02:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by mark019 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋