I have been hanging out with this girl for about 2.5 months now. We usually meet for lunch once a week (not a scheduled thing, just random times), and hang out once one on one during the week. We are both involved in a church, so we see each other more than that in a group setting. We usually talk, text, or email every day. Most of the time text or phone after 1030 at night. About a month into us hanging out, a conversation was steered in the way of relationships. Not necessarily by me or her, just mutually. I told her that I was starting to have interest in her, and she said she could see potential in a relationship, but didn’t want to rush into a relationship, as she had gotten out of a two year about 3 months earlier. I would say we hang out more now than we did then. We are not dating though. We talk about our families and our past quite a bit. We are both busy, and independent. Neither of us is clingy. The other day I told her that I was gonna get my hair cut, and she offered to do it. Yesterday, I went to her apartment and she cut it, and we hung out for a while after. I was doing some stuff on my laptop, and she said she had to get ready to go so she was gonna take a shower, but told me I didn’t need to leave. I am sure this is very hard to follow, but I am trying to keep it compact. She is 25 and a CPA, I am 21 and almost done with college. Does this sound like stuff that a normal woman would do if she just wanted to be friends? Any advice would be great. Thanks!
2007-11-19 02:38:12 · 4 answers · asked by Dan M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like what I would do with friends of the opposite sex.
2007-11-19 02:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dan I didn't realize you were that young. You are very mature for your age. Speaking from a 25 year old woman's stand point, women have friends and then they have "romantic potential friends". These two types of friends are a bit different than each other. The "Just Friends" type of friend would probably not be that involved with you. If it were another guy and you to were just good buddies then maybe but usually if a woman is that friendly with you and you're a heterosexual man then she definitely sees you as that "potential romantic person" in her life. Something could definitely grow from the friendship. You should keep being around and I think it will naturally flow into a relationship. To break into more than "just friends" category you should suggest doing something that's more of a date than just lunch. Maybe ask her to go see a new movie that's out or ask her to go to dinner. You two don't have to necessarily dress up but once you go out and it's at night it kind of puts a different spin on your friendship. Good luck! Sounds like things are going well.
2007-11-19 04:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by uarolltidegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she truly enjoys hanging out with you and getting to know you. She's doing what she said, not rushing. That's great that you aren't pushing her and are being her friend. You two have the potential to have a very lasting, loving, honest relationship. Just be patient and keep being her friend.
2007-11-19 02:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be friends right now, so yeah, she's acting like a friend with you. Don't give up hope; she's interested in you, so continue doing what you're doing now. It will take her some time; you don't want to be the rebound guy, so don't make her feel pressured to be in a relationship.
2007-11-19 02:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋